Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me.

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 14:33:02 GMT

altlife@me.dm — Tue, 22 Sep 2026 14:33:02 GMT

Patriarchy truly sucks because it taught generations of women to measure their worth by how little they needed & how much they could give, while teaching them that the work that consumed their lives was simply their duty, not work.
The thing about unpaid care work is that it is so constant, so woven into life, that the person doing it can eventually stop seeing it as labour at all.
That is what patriarchy does. It doesn’t just undervalue women’s work. it teaches women to undervalue it themselves

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 14:29:37 GMT

altlife@me.dm — Tue, 22 Sep 2026 14:29:37 GMT

Meet my beautiful ammamma, we went for her eye checkup. Got a plenty of time to catchup. She told me Thatha(her husband) used to leave for work at 730 am & return at 11 pm. She took care of her 2 kids, their education & well being, household chores & paying bills, alone all those years. She doesn't consider that as work. Though it consumed her life. In her mind, her contribution to the family was significantly less because she wasn’t the one earning the money for family. Patriarchy truly sucks.

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Mon, 21 Sep 2026 08:11:56 GMT

altlife@me.dm — Mon, 21 Sep 2026 08:11:56 GMT

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Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Sun, 20 Sep 2026 22:32:04 GMT

abhijithb21@fe.disroot.org — Sun, 20 Sep 2026 22:32:04 GMT

@altlife Fast eating has earned me a new nick at office - Bakasur. Buhahaha!

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Tue, 15 Sep 2026 17:46:30 GMT

altlife@me.dm — Tue, 15 Sep 2026 17:46:30 GMT

@cy what a lovely worry to have. You cooked so well it made someone sick by overeating. From my experience of overeating such meals, worse that can happen is one feels like taking a very long nap(which I enjoy as well) Thank you for sharing! Lucky people to have someone like you who cooks well around, hope some get to learn recipes from you as well!

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Tue, 15 Sep 2026 17:04:03 GMT

cy@fedicy.us.to — Tue, 15 Sep 2026 17:04:03 GMT

What an interesting cultural difference! I don't know if it's the way I was raised, or what I saw on TV, but I get worried when someone enjoys my cooking too much. Like, did I make it too tasty, and make them sick? What makes me feel best is the satisfaction after a meal, especially if the diner is eager to volunteer to do the dishes.

And my mother only seems happy when people ask for her cooking. Her compliment comes from people asking her to make a recipe she invented. Eating itself is just mundane. "I cook for two hours, and in 15 minutes it's gone."

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Tue, 15 Sep 2026 15:55:45 GMT

altlife@me.dm — Tue, 15 Sep 2026 15:55:45 GMT

@alexhaist It absolutely is. Nothing matches the love expressed by people who love to cook for you. Its so gentle and seeped in your well being.

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Tue, 15 Sep 2026 15:54:51 GMT

altlife@me.dm — Tue, 15 Sep 2026 15:54:51 GMT

What ammamma told me surprised me. She said with the biggest smile that its the first time anyone has given her flowers. My beautiful ammamma who buys flowers everyday to decorate her temple & as offering to her gods, all these years, she never got flowers for herself. This generation of grandmothers are so selfless that its just not fair. Please buy flowers for your grandmothers & mothers
And for other people's mothers and grandmothers because they deserve to smile the biggest smiles as well.

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Tue, 15 Sep 2026 15:53:32 GMT

alexhaist@wandering.shop — Tue, 15 Sep 2026 15:53:32 GMT

@altlife what a delicious way to show appreciation

Reply to Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. on Tue, 15 Sep 2026 15:53:22 GMT

altlife@me.dm — Tue, 15 Sep 2026 15:53:22 GMT

We communicated by laughing together. Ammamma now in mid 80s, wasn't sent to school, got married early, had kids early. But she made sure her kids were well educated & followed their heart in life. Their joy mattered the most to her. The joy in her eyes when she was able to communicate her feelings to me was priceless. Why am I sharing this today? Ammamma is visiting my town, I went to see her in the airport & got her a bouquet of flowers (sunflower because it reminds me of her bright big smile)