<![CDATA[So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me.]]>So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.

We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.

“Oh man, yeah please.”

My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.

America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/topic/03f33334-6a72-4a43-a466-841c7cc6c4e1/so-because-i-am-a-british-what-moved-to-america-some-british-traits-persist-in-me.RSS for NodeFri, 24 Jul 2026 07:56:55 GMTSat, 18 Jul 2026 15:14:07 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 08:39:48 GMT]]>@SecureOwl wtf?

America - Don't offer a cup of tea, that's weird.

Also America - let's put a tea break in football so we can show ads.

What a strange country.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://go.mxtthxw.art/users/inpc/statuses/01KXWRG4BBG61CCV3DE73VP8WChttps://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://go.mxtthxw.art/users/inpc/statuses/01KXWRG4BBG61CCV3DE73VP8WCSun, 19 Jul 2026 08:39:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 07:57:47 GMT]]>@SecureOwl If you are English, why do you think "British" is a noun, when it is an adjective?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.scot/users/LaChasseuse/statuses/116945575465345269https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.scot/users/LaChasseuse/statuses/116945575465345269Sun, 19 Jul 2026 07:57:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 06:38:11 GMT]]>@DaveMWilburn @SecureOwl agreed. Regional. By the time you get to the FL line, in Georgia we brought out silver trays of bourbon at 4:00 p.m. I do not recommend this at all for getting your house fixed but it is a very good time!

Southerners are impeccably hospitable, right up to the moment they find out you're in any way different from them.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.green/users/Tarnport/statuses/116945262413274488https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.green/users/Tarnport/statuses/116945262413274488Sun, 19 Jul 2026 06:38:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 05:37:16 GMT]]>@SecureOwl
Here in Canada, I have tried several times to offer contractors something to drink, a soft drink, water, anything... They always decline embarrassedly... Weird...

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://techhub.social/users/qole/statuses/116945022896891542https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://techhub.social/users/qole/statuses/116945022896891542Sun, 19 Jul 2026 05:37:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 05:28:46 GMT]]>@SecureOwl@infosec.exchange This is normal outside of Britain too, I've even seen the practice outside of Europe. Its just the USA where people are trained from birth to be egocentric, and thus never offer anything for free to a "stranger".]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://fedi.tyil.nl/notes/aoux6dbq7lhttps://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://fedi.tyil.nl/notes/aoux6dbq7lSun, 19 Jul 2026 05:28:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 03:55:56 GMT]]>@SecureOwl
Born in Seattle and raised in Southern California. Offer drinks to workers (most recent was a guy fixing our range). I have several friends in the Bay Area that leave bottled water and snacks for Amazon/FedEx/UPS delivery drivers.

My dad would pick up day laborers at Home Depot when I was a kid for doing yard work (5 acres). My mom would make them lunch and always offered something to drink.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://dusty.ninja/users/bryan/statuses/01KXW88BZPG47BP39591WG8C17https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://dusty.ninja/users/bryan/statuses/01KXW88BZPG47BP39591WG8C17Sun, 19 Jul 2026 03:55:56 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 03:06:55 GMT]]>@SecureOwl I was taught to do this, my husband's family on the opposite side of the US from where I grew up does this, and the only places I've seen in the country where it's not the norm is in an extremely bigoted part of the Deep South where workers have to guesstimate who'll be safe entering who's property and how dangerous it to talk to any member of the household.

I wonder if there are other places in the country where not offering something to drink is basic etiquette.

The offer is usually water or soda pop, whichever the source is for the family (tap, fridge, bottled). In the southern half of the country, offering tea unless you're actively drinking or blending can be kind of rude, for a variety of reasons, but I'm sure a British accent would flip that.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://toot.cat/users/shadowfals/statuses/116944431727229170https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://toot.cat/users/shadowfals/statuses/116944431727229170Sun, 19 Jul 2026 03:06:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 02:31:52 GMT]]>@SecureOwl @grumpydad that is so recognizable, and at the same time such an indictment of western values, it hurts even thinking about...

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/bertdriehuis/statuses/116944293887903566https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/bertdriehuis/statuses/116944293887903566Sun, 19 Jul 2026 02:31:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 01:29:07 GMT]]>@DaveMWilburn Adding my piece, I grew up in Kentucky and it was common to offer at least water if not coffee or coke.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/somenerv/statuses/116944047147322433https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/somenerv/statuses/116944047147322433Sun, 19 Jul 2026 01:29:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 00:34:03 GMT]]>@SecureOwl hot weather, i always offer tradies and delivery people water - they almost always tell me they are good 🙂

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://bne.social/users/leadegroot/statuses/116943830631683785https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://bne.social/users/leadegroot/statuses/116943830631683785Sun, 19 Jul 2026 00:34:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sun, 19 Jul 2026 00:00:34 GMT]]>@SecureOwl I offer everyone who comes to my house a drink, especially when it's hot outside. It's just a nice thing to do.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/macacator/statuses/116943698948885429https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/macacator/statuses/116943698948885429Sun, 19 Jul 2026 00:00:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 23:59:47 GMT]]>@SecureOwl I daresay just about everyone in Yurp does this and just about everyone in Murca doesn't.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Eetschrijver/statuses/116943695886950882https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/Eetschrijver/statuses/116943695886950882Sat, 18 Jul 2026 23:59:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 23:46:16 GMT]]>@SecureOwl @Allkinds I'm american and always have been. I was taught to offer drinks to guests by my grandmother. She was very generous and from the south, so maybe that's why, but it definitely should be the norm.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://kolektiva.social/users/ArcMother/statuses/116943642706621885https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://kolektiva.social/users/ArcMother/statuses/116943642706621885Sat, 18 Jul 2026 23:46:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 23:45:27 GMT]]>@cshlan @DaveMWilburn @SecureOwl

Came to see how many commented about it. Growing up I saw everyone get offered a glass of water.

In the Gulf states of the USA you'd also make sure to offer a glass of sweet tea.

But yes. Times change. Regional differences do show.

I hope more people go out and offer hydration to anyone who steps through the door. It needs to be embedded in all local cultures.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://toot.community/users/MyWoolyMastadon/statuses/116943639529404168https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://toot.community/users/MyWoolyMastadon/statuses/116943639529404168Sat, 18 Jul 2026 23:45:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 23:23:54 GMT]]>@Ambulocetus @SecureOwl I had assumed the latter quite honestly, but that same set of folks is litigious enough

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://stranger.social/users/catmisgivings/statuses/116943554744622681https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://stranger.social/users/catmisgivings/statuses/116943554744622681Sat, 18 Jul 2026 23:23:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:49:37 GMT]]>America in general could use more gestures of hospitality.
One of my French friends asked me why we were going nuts over banning soda refills. I had to explain to him that he lives in a country where every single joint run by a Moroccan, from food truck to notary (probably), has a vat of mint tea for everyone to sip while waiting and that free refills on diner coffee and soda were one of the few hospitable gestures Americans could count on.

@SecureOwl

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://kpop.social/users/dogfox/statuses/116943419940864757https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://kpop.social/users/dogfox/statuses/116943419940864757Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:49:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:45:42 GMT]]>@SecureOwl

In my experience you usually offer, but most people carry their own now.

Maybe regional, maybe class?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.online/users/billyjoebowers/statuses/116943404595340458https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.online/users/billyjoebowers/statuses/116943404595340458Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:45:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:22:34 GMT]]>@catmisgivings @SecureOwl I've worked at a couple of places that had that rule. I don't know why, but it must be either some kind of legal issue, or it's just that the wealthy ass-holes in the "gated communities" don't want filthy peasants in their privacy areas.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mefi.social/users/Ambulocetus/statuses/116943313625780523https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mefi.social/users/Ambulocetus/statuses/116943313625780523Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:22:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:22:07 GMT]]>@SecureOwl I grew up in California, and it was very much in our culture to offer beverages to people who'd been out in the hot sun. That's just basic golden rule behavior when you live in a dehydrating environment.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://raphus.social/ap/users/116366479330331657/statuses/116943311862227205https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://raphus.social/ap/users/116366479330331657/statuses/116943311862227205Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:22:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:17:54 GMT]]>@SecureOwl It's great to see so many people willing to offer some water or something, but there is another factor at play here. Some bosses explicitly tell there employees to not accept anything like that from customers. I don't exacty know why they do this, but I suspect it has something to do with lawyers.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mefi.social/users/Ambulocetus/statuses/116943295280739841https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mefi.social/users/Ambulocetus/statuses/116943295280739841Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:17:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:08:07 GMT]]>@SecureOwl
We had a guy out to stucco our garage yesterday. I not only offered him a huge glass of ice water (which he gladly took) but also a couple of pieces of freshly baked pumpkin cake.

In the past, I've gone out and bought tacos for window installers.

The folks who come to fix your stuff are the ones who should be treated with hospitality and respect.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://ohai.social/users/shansterable/statuses/116943256800020093https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://ohai.social/users/shansterable/statuses/116943256800020093Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:08:07 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:03:46 GMT]]>@SecureOwl in Brazil we will even invite (and expect them to partake) to lunch (which is a full meal, no sandwiches)

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://brunadan.uber.space/users/sophieop/statuses/01KXVM3GR9YYY2QRQMXRCY91KHhttps://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://brunadan.uber.space/users/sophieop/statuses/01KXVM3GR9YYY2QRQMXRCY91KHSat, 18 Jul 2026 22:03:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:00:11 GMT]]>@SecureOwl wait... people in America don't offer other people drinks when they come into their homes?! WHAT!?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://notnull.space/users/paul/statuses/01KXVKWZ2FJ21VR9Q1RNK3E759https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://notnull.space/users/paul/statuses/01KXVKWZ2FJ21VR9Q1RNK3E759Sat, 18 Jul 2026 22:00:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. on Sat, 18 Jul 2026 21:59:28 GMT]]>@SecureOwl At least have water (same kind you'd drink) available for visitors and workers. I often forget to ask, but it absolutely should be normalized. It should be normal year-round, but certainly during the summer where dehydration can be a real risk.

I don't have coffee or tea around. (I consume neither bean water nor leaf water.). Tho, if they can stomach the soda I have, they are welcome to it.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://hachyderm.io/users/BoydStephenSmithJr/statuses/116943222755161059https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://hachyderm.io/users/BoydStephenSmithJr/statuses/116943222755161059Sat, 18 Jul 2026 21:59:28 GMT