(I think many people are jaded by bad manual experiences, as I know I am myself - but that's not your fault & the subject of a different thread )

So, no, I'm not overly sympathetic. If you login twenty times a day, and ask me how to login every time, I will point you to the step by step guide, filled with screenshots and annotations.

If its not in the manual, you're not expected to know it. Thats what I'm there for.

If its in the manual, and you haven't even tried, that's where I will call people out. And it happens every single day.

I write training manuals at work.
No one uses them, and ask me instead... And I tell them just to read n do the damn manual.

And then, if they fail, it isnt my problem anymore. It isnt "James told me to", its "I didnt follow the manual properly".

"When you get here, press the doorbell"

Hugz & xXx

Broadly speaking, giving instructions works wonderfully well with other autistic people but neurotypicals only respond to clear instructions if I do some kind of emotional leadership thing first and that seems to be a wildly changing variant with each neurotypical and I generally can't be bothered figuring out what will make them care that I actually know what I'm talking about.

But autistic people listen if you know how to do something we don't. We're generally really, really tired of having to figure everything out ourselves due to the communication barrier between we and the rest of our species.