<![CDATA[As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth.]]>As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.

Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.

https://www.qasimrashid.com/p/women-are-not-safe-around-men

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/topic/34105410-cc98-4eff-95fa-0a9a4ba0cf83/as-a-human-rights-lawyer-representing-survivors-of-domestic-and-sexual-violence-for-15-years-i-ve-learned-a-hard-truth.RSS for NodeFri, 12 Jun 2026 03:27:10 GMTFri, 29 May 2026 17:55:45 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 04:03:41 GMT]]>@QasimRashid @Oafsalot

short version of your post “”

Every single time anyone posts about why men are dangerous or why women rightly fear us, it is a bankable guarantee that some fella will turn up to say, in some format, why they’re wrong.

Bankable

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mas.to/users/JimmyB/statuses/116661539396875027https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mas.to/users/JimmyB/statuses/116661539396875027Sat, 30 May 2026 04:03:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 03:43:25 GMT]]>@dbattistella @YKantRachelRead
@_L1vY_

Unless I am missing something I think some of us are being a bit harsh sure @johnrohde 's response is problematic and indicates a patriarchal background but we will remain divided with these dog-pile comments.

@johnrohde as @QasimRashid wrote, "Discomfort is the beginning of accountability".

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.sdf.org/users/tregeagle/statuses/116661459690582462https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.sdf.org/users/tregeagle/statuses/116661459690582462Sat, 30 May 2026 03:43:25 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 03:25:04 GMT]]>@johnrohde @QasimRashid

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mstdn.social/users/_L1vY_/statuses/116661387533364848https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mstdn.social/users/_L1vY_/statuses/116661387533364848Sat, 30 May 2026 03:25:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 03:17:41 GMT]]>@johnrohde @QasimRashid dear John, did you read the whole article? Do you really consider necessary your comment and an actual contribution to this topic?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lile.cl/users/carloshr/statuses/116661358509022699https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lile.cl/users/carloshr/statuses/116661358509022699Sat, 30 May 2026 03:17:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 02:27:55 GMT]]>@QasimRashid
That's why we pick the bear.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://hachyderm.io/users/nosrednayduj/statuses/116661162827617541https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://hachyderm.io/users/nosrednayduj/statuses/116661162827617541Sat, 30 May 2026 02:27:55 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 01:54:04 GMT]]>@johnrohde@helvede.net @QasimRashid@mastodon.social

The author provides 10 courses of action for men to take in the article.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://transfem.social/notes/amv9ho35vnl108gfhttps://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://transfem.social/notes/amv9ho35vnl108gfSat, 30 May 2026 01:54:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 01:50:54 GMT]]>Every accusation is a confession. Say Hi to you're handler at Langley.

@bri7 @YKantRachelRead

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/ap/users/116573612356642843/statuses/116661017309165432https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/ap/users/116573612356642843/statuses/116661017309165432Sat, 30 May 2026 01:50:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 01:44:05 GMT]]>Hey, you gave yourself away when you defended anarchists; you're both enemies of the common good. Always tryna to distract people from creating a system that could actually defeat capitalism.

@bri7 @YKantRachelRead

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/ap/users/116573612356642843/statuses/116660990460700512https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/ap/users/116573612356642843/statuses/116660990460700512Sat, 30 May 2026 01:44:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 01:22:26 GMT]]>@YKantRachelRead @Timeless maybe the first reply was slop generated too?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.treehouse.systems/users/bri7/statuses/116660905335653700https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.treehouse.systems/users/bri7/statuses/116660905335653700Sat, 30 May 2026 01:22:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 01:08:52 GMT]]>@QasimRashid Another reply cuz I want to remind men\male leaning folks that if you do not discourage and pushback against what your friends and brothers do, you're just as bad as them.
Doing nothing is also a choice. You choosing to do nothing to stop the violence is the very thing that makes it worse
Until every man does something about this, it's yes all men and always will be all men.
A bear in the woods is nothing compared to a man on the street, in your store or in your life

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/HappyCrow13/statuses/116660851970896822https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/HappyCrow13/statuses/116660851970896822Sat, 30 May 2026 01:08:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 01:02:51 GMT]]>@maggiejk @QasimRashid I'm more angry at the men because they refuse to accept they're as culpable as my ex. They openly encouraged and engaged in abusive behaviors and deriding women
The women who blamed me were not nearly as eager and wholehearted about it. After a couple of good yelling sessions from me they seemed to accept they were wrong and started helping themselves
The men could only call me a stupid slut that hurts me cuz I'm angry at them
Yeah I'm good not being friends with any men

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/HappyCrow13/statuses/116660828368254219https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/HappyCrow13/statuses/116660828368254219Sat, 30 May 2026 01:02:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 01:00:43 GMT]]>@maggiejk @QasimRashid Yeah I know too many men like that. I no longer stay quiet about it and have broken many friendships because they didn't like the truth.
I was blamed for my abusive marriage. The men tended to side with my ex cuz I'm a 'hard woman to get along with' and 'he works hard cut him some slack' The couple of women (my mom included) were also in abusive relationships and didn't want to admit it and get help to end it so they found reasons to fault me

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/HappyCrow13/statuses/116660819944615604https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/HappyCrow13/statuses/116660819944615604Sat, 30 May 2026 01:00:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:51:42 GMT]]>@YKantRachelRead @johnrohde@helvede.net @QasimRashid Well John just got blocked!

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mstdn.ca/users/dbattistella/statuses/116660784495993863https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mstdn.ca/users/dbattistella/statuses/116660784495993863Sat, 30 May 2026 00:51:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:42:41 GMT]]>@johnrohde @QasimRashid maybe you could help in the male community instead. Speak out? Ask women what would help?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/Rolandelli/statuses/116660749055378323https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/Rolandelli/statuses/116660749055378323Sat, 30 May 2026 00:42:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:20:54 GMT]]>@hoare_spitall @QasimRashid confront men when they do wrong!

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.uy/users/sinmisterios/statuses/116660663410042338https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.uy/users/sinmisterios/statuses/116660663410042338Sat, 30 May 2026 00:20:54 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:20:10 GMT]]>@Timeless 😂 oh my, thanks for the laugh.

@QasimRashid

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660660518670844https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660660518670844Sat, 30 May 2026 00:20:10 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:19:01 GMT]]>@billjryan

Every man saying "you only met the wrong man'" is really saying, "It's your fault your relationship was bad. I am alpha and the best thing to happen to women" Very toxic .

@YKantRachelRead @QasimRashid

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660655983148296https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660655983148296Sat, 30 May 2026 00:19:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:14:53 GMT]]>@YKantRachelRead

well said.

@Oafsalot @QasimRashid

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660639722285159https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660639722285159Sat, 30 May 2026 00:14:53 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:14:37 GMT]]>@Oafsalot
@QasimRashid

>>Men aren't safe around men either. You know that, right?<<

So...you agree that men are the dangerous ones to be around?

>>Also, men are more likely to die preventable violent deaths, be seriously injured by random violence, and die from preventable diseases.<<

And why is that? Why are men the ones most likely to be in preventble violent situations? Why are men more likely to die by random violence? Why are men more likely to die from preventable diseases?

(These are also rhetorical questions, becaude the answer is Male Supremacy/Toxic Masculinity)

Anyways, maybe let women talk about the violence we experience at the hands of men (who, remember, you actively stated are dangerous to be around) without feeling the need to refocus the conversation on men being victims.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://eldritch.cafe/users/TheSunnyOne/statuses/116660638706028515https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://eldritch.cafe/users/TheSunnyOne/statuses/116660638706028515Sat, 30 May 2026 00:14:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:13:51 GMT]]>@Oafsalot

Diverting the topic from women, from the article. Nope . Not cool. @QasimRashid

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660635636474460https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660635636474460Sat, 30 May 2026 00:13:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:09:14 GMT]]>@Ciclop

yes!!
@johnrohde @QasimRashid

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660617537465781https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660617537465781Sat, 30 May 2026 00:09:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:08:34 GMT]]>@YKantRachelRead

thank you.

@johnrohde @QasimRashid

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660614879218474https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660614879218474Sat, 30 May 2026 00:08:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:07:59 GMT]]>@johnrohde

"not all men"

@QasimRashid

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660612609105968https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.world/users/TrueNorthSpice/statuses/116660612609105968Sat, 30 May 2026 00:07:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. on Sat, 30 May 2026 00:02:00 GMT]]>@johnrohde @QasimRashid "The men who rush to announce their personal non-violence the moment this conversation begins are doing exactly what this culture trained them to do—center themselves rather than confront the problem."

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