<![CDATA[The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse.]]>The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse.

In the past, they’ve generally been able to tell when someone has a crush on them, but as a friendly person myself I have a history of thinking others are just being friendly and sociable, too.

Sometimes I realized what was actually happening years later. 😂

Can you tell when someone has a crush on you?

Boosts are warmly welcomed.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/topic/449fcb24-7812-43aa-968c-668f3bd6ded4/the-idea-for-this-poll-came-from-a-recent-conversation-with-my-spouse.RSS for NodeFri, 24 Jul 2026 19:36:22 GMTSun, 19 Jul 2026 11:23:50 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Thu, 23 Jul 2026 21:05:57 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch I don’t know — I don’t think I can? At least, I have never realized if someone was flirting with me. My friends would have to point that out afterwards. But it hasn’t happened very much. I think 🤔

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://expressional.social/users/tanyakaroli/statuses/116971323880267297https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://expressional.social/users/tanyakaroli/statuses/116971323880267297Thu, 23 Jul 2026 21:05:57 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Thu, 23 Jul 2026 20:35:00 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch sometimes I notice but long after 🙃

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://col.social/users/alecramarcela/statuses/116971202203450525https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://col.social/users/alecramarcela/statuses/116971202203450525Thu, 23 Jul 2026 20:35:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Thu, 23 Jul 2026 06:05:21 GMT]]>@nik "Mental pee-pee dance" is HILARIOUS, and so completely true! 😂 I'm like this too, I'm so relived I'm not alone! Also it's so fascinating to me the different things one becomes aware of after transition!

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.coop/users/hollie/statuses/116967782555525501https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.coop/users/hollie/statuses/116967782555525501Thu, 23 Jul 2026 06:05:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Thu, 23 Jul 2026 01:32:01 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch
I'm pretty sure he did!

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://dawdling.net/users/cshlan/statuses/116966707817235709https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://dawdling.net/users/cshlan/statuses/116966707817235709Thu, 23 Jul 2026 01:32:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Thu, 23 Jul 2026 01:15:44 GMT]]>@cshlan I love this story. Thank you for sharing. I hope he eventually found his person.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/116966643733258620https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/116966643733258620Thu, 23 Jul 2026 01:15:44 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Thu, 23 Jul 2026 01:14:38 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch
I sometimes can. But I do remember going into a store and being waited on by one of the most awkward cashiers I'd ever met then meeting the same guy years later with my now husband and he was perfectly sociable... I realized he'd been trying to flirt the first time around 😄

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://dawdling.net/users/cshlan/statuses/116966639462587699https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://dawdling.net/users/cshlan/statuses/116966639462587699Thu, 23 Jul 2026 01:14:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 19:44:27 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch It can change from person to person, it's all in their love language, but usually it's quite a subtly shown emotion in how they pull their words, word choices, how their eyes look at you, or even things they choose to pay attention to regarding you. Usually it's far easier to see once you get to know a person better through passing conversion, but for spotting it on the fly a good rule of thumb can be keeping an eye out for softer looks in the eyes as well as actions or attempts at conversation which try to lead you to pay more attention or to have your mind linger on the person in question. It's not always the case that these will be crushes, but they're a nice tip off which can allow you to further conversation and learn more about the person to be able to tell for certain.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://ieji.de/users/fluffy_fox/statuses/116965341069988264https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://ieji.de/users/fluffy_fox/statuses/116965341069988264Wed, 22 Jul 2026 19:44:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 18:59:23 GMT]]>@fluffy_fox Can you describe some of the things people do or say that would tip you off that this was happening?

I’m better at noticing such things now than I used to be, but I still don’t always catch them.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/116965163874231673https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/116965163874231673Wed, 22 Jul 2026 18:59:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 18:34:05 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch It's a sense you gain with time. I used to be quite daft about it, but after spending more time just socializing with people I learned how to tell. Though as of yet there is still no cure for blushing when I sense someone's crush on me.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://ieji.de/users/fluffy_fox/statuses/116965064408234953https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://ieji.de/users/fluffy_fox/statuses/116965064408234953Wed, 22 Jul 2026 18:34:05 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 17:08:15 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch

The last time I was even aware of someone having a crush on me was about 30 years ago.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mstdn.social/users/calmeilles/statuses/116964726885959375https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mstdn.social/users/calmeilles/statuses/116964726885959375Wed, 22 Jul 2026 17:08:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:49:18 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch Someone basically is going to have to smack me and tell me if they want me to know they have a crush on me.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://cyberpunk.lol/users/NoApollonia/statuses/116964652405527443https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://cyberpunk.lol/users/NoApollonia/statuses/116964652405527443Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:49:18 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:48:21 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch I would say most of the time yes. It’s rare I’m not aware.
I find guys who have “crushes”, also have expectations of me giving them a signal I’m interested, when usually they say nothing, not even interested in getting to know me, or letting me getting to know them, so I’m just supposed to go on surface and have desire for a facade as they do, show interest based on nothing. Putting in no effort. Trying to get my attention without paying any attention to me, gives me the ick.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/JoBlakely/statuses/116964648662630033https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/JoBlakely/statuses/116964648662630033Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:48:21 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:48:16 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch Mastodon skews towards neurodivergence, I think, and we tend not to be able to tell. I can only figure it out literal decades later.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://chaos.social/users/sennoma/statuses/116964648237506443https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://chaos.social/users/sennoma/statuses/116964648237506443Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:48:16 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:26:13 GMT]]>@pawpower @lydiaschoch Fuck! That’s just the kind of thing I’d do.
[UPDATE] Something I’ve probably done a million times. Ah well, fuck it. 😀

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.acc.sunet.se/users/toxy/statuses/116964561590652542https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.acc.sunet.se/users/toxy/statuses/116964561590652542Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:26:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:22:12 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch No, apart from one crazy, obvious pseudo stalker which is cheating, really.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.acc.sunet.se/users/toxy/statuses/116964545814930858https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.acc.sunet.se/users/toxy/statuses/116964545814930858Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:22:12 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:14:27 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch
I don't have any particular evidence that anyone has ever had a crush on me

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116205631931276462/statuses/116964515317058544https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116205631931276462/statuses/116964515317058544Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:14:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:13:28 GMT]]>@byakuroku
I've worried about doing that because I also don't drink coffee.
@lydiaschoch @pawpower

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116205631931276462/statuses/116964511511386693https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/116205631931276462/statuses/116964511511386693Wed, 22 Jul 2026 16:13:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 15:54:28 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch No. I can't tell unless I'm told.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/roknrol/statuses/116964436793580793https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/roknrol/statuses/116964436793580793Wed, 22 Jul 2026 15:54:28 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 15:14:04 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch I'm not sure whether my answer should be Yes, No, or Other under the strong presumption no one has ever had a crush on me.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://toot.lgbt/users/ellesaurus/statuses/116964277880823669https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://toot.lgbt/users/ellesaurus/statuses/116964277880823669Wed, 22 Jul 2026 15:14:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 14:16:27 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch Not often. I think it's my ADHD. I can see it when it's someone else. ("Bro, she's totally into you.")

My theory is that when I'm observing, I see little hints and patterns easily, but when I'm interacting directly, I'm paying so much attention to trying to hear what they're saying, think of how to respond, etc, that my brain's too busy to notice the other stuff.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/ZenHeathen/statuses/116964051347083081https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/ZenHeathen/statuses/116964051347083081Wed, 22 Jul 2026 14:16:27 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 13:41:41 GMT]]>@nik @hollie @lydiaschoch Mental pee pee dance is my life about everything I say as someone with ADHD. I leak a lot though.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://twincities.online/ap/users/116727543701596805/statuses/116963914622057157https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://twincities.online/ap/users/116727543701596805/statuses/116963914622057157Wed, 22 Jul 2026 13:41:41 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 13:41:20 GMT]]>@nik as an autistic transmasc person, i relate. i almost never compliment women or nonbinary people in my new incarnation as compared to when i was in my old one. don't wanna be perceived as a creep. and yes i'm terrible at recognizing when someone has a crush on me 🫣

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/adub/statuses/116963913289688050https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/adub/statuses/116963913289688050Wed, 22 Jul 2026 13:41:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 13:36:04 GMT]]>@3x10to8mps this should be a scene in a romance film. It’s so wholesome. 😊

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/116963892585546925https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/116963892585546925Wed, 22 Jul 2026 13:36:04 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to The idea for this poll came from a recent conversation with my spouse. on Wed, 22 Jul 2026 13:25:15 GMT]]>@lydiaschoch With my most significant relationship,I spent hours and even days working with him, and socializing with him for months but it wasn't til we went to a movie together and he put his arm over my shoulders that it dawned on me that he liked me haha

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/3x10to8mps/statuses/116963850005402776https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/3x10to8mps/statuses/116963850005402776Wed, 22 Jul 2026 13:25:15 GMT