<![CDATA[```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts]]>```
Datestodon — Fedi dating posts

Usage:
#[AGE][ME]4[YOU] DESCRIPTION

Age:
Y 18–30s (younger)
A 30s–50s (adult)
O 50s+ (older)

Gender:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M Masc

Looking for:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M Masc
A Any

Examples:

Poly enby tomboy open to dates with FWB possibilities.


20s femme rock-climber seeking fun guy.


Gay 63yo - London area. Looking for partner.

Notes:
- Codes are shorthand, not compatibility filters.
- Orientation and "YOU" age are intentionally not encoded.
- Use the description for sexuality, relationship style, preferences, boundaries, and anything else that matters.
- Multiple "YOU" categories may be combined when useful.
- Keep it human: read the post, respect boundaries, and don't treat codes as permission to contact someone.
```

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/topic/5ee9f4ef-e15f-4c02-87a0-5d726365bebc/datestodon-fedi-dating-postsRSS for NodeSat, 29 Aug 2026 10:18:49 GMTMon, 24 Aug 2026 20:03:44 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 22:07:13 GMT]]>@Quasit well, the location tag doesn't have to be *your* location (for instance if you're moving somewhere or visit regularly). I think it's fine to include a couple locations if you split time too.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152758757367477https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152758757367477Mon, 24 Aug 2026 22:07:13 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 22:05:24 GMT]]>@Quasit I'm open to arguments either way, but I figured that dating is just a part of local life, so it could be included in the general location hashtag. That also makes it more discoverable when just looking at local posts.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152751558419103https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152751558419103Mon, 24 Aug 2026 22:05:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 22:04:59 GMT]]>@alice

I was working on possibilities, but maybe it would be better to keep things simple.

One thing I've been wondering is if it's possible to search based on more than one hashtag at a time. For example, could you search for partners of the appropriate criteria in the location of my choice?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/Quasit/statuses/117152749973353612https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/Quasit/statuses/117152749973353612Mon, 24 Aug 2026 22:04:59 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:59:43 GMT]]>@Quasit I went back and forth on a bunch of options, and the relative set "younger, adult, older" seemed the set with the fewest issues, but I'm still not very happy with it.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152729254291048https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152729254291048Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:59:43 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:58:40 GMT]]>@alice

Do we want a unique hashtag prefix for locations, to differentiate dating locations from regular locations? So , for example, as opposed to ?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/Quasit/statuses/117152725080158470https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/Quasit/statuses/117152725080158470Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:58:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:46:46 GMT]]>@alice
Can we think of some different way to represent age? I'm not sure how many people will be willing to call themselves "Old". I presume that's what "O" stands for.

Perhaps Rare, Medium, and Well done?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/Quasit/statuses/117152678279003104https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://beige.party/users/Quasit/statuses/117152678279003104Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:46:46 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:32:24 GMT]]>@alice seems cool

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/alreadydeadxd/statuses/117152621820729501https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/alreadydeadxd/statuses/117152621820729501Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:32:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:32:01 GMT]]>@loonling I made some improvements and formatted it nicely for markdown (I hope 😅). Thanks for the feedback 💖

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152620295648792https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152620295648792Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:32:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:27:06 GMT]]>@DodoTheDev 🫂

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152600984878231https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152600984878231Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:27:06 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:19:48 GMT]]>@alice
Dang it, mid. Now I feel old!

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://front-end.social/users/DodoTheDev/statuses/117152572275081126https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://front-end.social/users/DodoTheDev/statuses/117152572275081126Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:19:48 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:05:01 GMT]]>@BriBear @alice How soon can we start using the hashtag because I am quite excited for it. 😂

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/117152514140962759https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/117152514140962759Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:05:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:00:32 GMT]]>@alice This is perfect!

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/117152496528858202https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/users/lydiaschoch/statuses/117152496528858202Mon, 24 Aug 2026 21:00:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:54:24 GMT]]>@alice These are all very good points, yes! Everything you've described here lends itself well to more organic discovery, something I appreciate when meeting people offline. I'm strongly in favor of systems that get people off of their devices and interacting with others IRL. Keeping it simple, organic, and messy (i.e. human) is the right approach here 🙂 In retrospect, I agree that adding categories or the like would make it scrapable and I wouldn't want that, either. The apps are all about that kind of filtering and just. It feels so minmax-y if you get what I mean? Like using sliders to design a "perfect" partner.

That turned into a bit of a word salad ramble, but maybe there's something useful in it? 🙂

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/117123757248542128/statuses/117152472399231704https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/117123757248542128/statuses/117152472399231704Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:54:24 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:32:03 GMT]]>@BriBear I've met so many people from Fedi over he last few years, and they've all been wonderful 🥰

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152384540365691https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152384540365691Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:32:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:29:15 GMT]]>@loonling making it easily scrapable is a bad design, and I don't want it to turn into a numbers game. I'd want it to encourage folx who happen to be open to dating each other to interact with more intention, while not attracting people who are "cruising"—there are already enough sites for that.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152373480082913https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152373480082913Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:29:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:26:31 GMT]]>@loonling I'd want to design to encourage "good behavior", so I'm partial to broad categories and short descriptions that encourages people to read rather than use filters.

It would be nice if you could browse he main hashtag to find folx to reach out to, or even better, be in a conversation with folx and just check their profile for a pinned post or bio.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152362748168366https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152362748168366Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:26:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:20:52 GMT]]>@alice I like it! Maybe standardize some categories on what people are looking for? I don't want to regiment it *too* much, because that's how you take all the humanity out of it! But do you think some general categories would help? Or is that going too far?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/117123757248542128/statuses/117152340528686756https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/ap/users/117123757248542128/statuses/117152340528686756Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:20:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:19:50 GMT]]>@alice "so it's not so full of old guys looking for 18yo girls."

One could argue that if they exist (they do, but in this particular setting I mean), at least the particular hashtag makes them really easy to identify, the problem would be upriver from this.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/adriano/statuses/117152336480855755https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/adriano/statuses/117152336480855755Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:19:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:18:11 GMT]]>@BriBear it would be great if it was a pretty standard set of flags, but Friendstodon would designate looking for friends/gatherings, and Datestodon for romantic/dating.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152329987760724https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152329987760724Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:18:11 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:14:52 GMT]]>@adriano Yeah. I agree overlapping letters is not ideal.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152316944078245https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152316944078245Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:14:52 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:13:14 GMT]]>@alice one suggestion would be to not have overlapping letters. The M for Mid and Masc at the same time is...

(Also I did not get your intent there, I was trying to figure out the age group).

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/adriano/statuses/117152310509468757https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/adriano/statuses/117152310509468757Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:13:14 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:12:00 GMT]]>@adriano yup. I decided not to use age as a filter on the poster's side, because 1. I don't want to add too many filter options and have the hashtags get super complicated, and 2. so it's not so full of old guys looking for 18yo girls.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152305688844127https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/alice/statuses/117152305688844127Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:12:00 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:06:03 GMT]]>@alice I think it's a bit too obscure. Even with your explanation I'm lost with MX4FXM. You're a mid-aged enby looking for... what? fem/enby/masc of any age group?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/adriano/statuses/117152282295478620https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://lgbtqia.space/users/adriano/statuses/117152282295478620Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:06:03 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to ```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts on Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:04:20 GMT]]>@alice Love this idea!!!

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://chaosfem.tw/users/JoscelynTransient/statuses/117152275547532222https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://chaosfem.tw/users/JoscelynTransient/statuses/117152275547532222Mon, 24 Aug 2026 20:04:20 GMT