Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do".

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:31:26 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:31:26 GMT

@lukeharby I'm so sorry. That is way too young to pass. I completely understand how you felt.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:27:48 GMT

lukeharby@infosec.exchange — Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:27:48 GMT

I was proud of my tears when we had a church service for my cousin who died at 42. Especially whilst hearing "El cant dels ocells" (Catalan: 'The Song of the Birds', made famous by Pablo Casals) performed by my cousins friend, a cellist right in front of me.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:24:17 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:24:17 GMT

@kirch I'm right with you on that. Anything to do with your own kids will surely bring tears to most people's eyes. They're who we pour our heart and soul into.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:21:55 GMT

kirch@tilde.zone — Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:21:55 GMT

@sjpurrs I had kids and instantly became a sentimental old fool, I can't even think about The Giving Tree without getting a little misty-eyed.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:11:52 GMT

kevinrns@mstdn.social — Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:11:52 GMT

@sjpurrs

If you just get angry reading the news you are missing much of the important part of the story.

I cry, damn right I do.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:06:33 GMT

ciarani@mastodon.green — Tue, 03 Nov 2026 19:06:33 GMT

@sjpurrs

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Sat, 31 Oct 2026 08:50:05 GMT

copharynx@sfba.social — Sat, 31 Oct 2026 08:50:05 GMT

@TrueNorthSpice @megatronicthronbanks @sjpurrs

I had a friend who told me, "We [she and her husband] tease both our son and daughter about crying. So we're being equal, right?"

Re the effect on men, I think often about Brené Brown and how a man, after one of her talks on shame, told her, "You have to look into shaming of men, because my wife and daughters would rather see me dead than see me express vulnerabilty."

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Sat, 31 Oct 2026 07:32:50 GMT

pussreboots@sfba.social — Sat, 31 Oct 2026 07:32:50 GMT

@sjpurrs I wouldn’t have married him if he weren’t.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Sat, 31 Oct 2026 01:35:08 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Sat, 31 Oct 2026 01:35:08 GMT

@pussreboots It's good he's in touch with his emotions.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Sat, 31 Oct 2026 01:04:51 GMT

pussreboots@sfba.social — Sat, 31 Oct 2026 01:04:51 GMT

@sjpurrs my husband cries.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Thu, 29 Oct 2026 18:00:14 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Thu, 29 Oct 2026 18:00:14 GMT

@woo I understand completely. Many well-written children's stories have characters that are easy to fall in love with, so anything that happens to these characters can be upsetting. Also, I'm envious of you never growing up. Now that I'm old, I'm really questioning what 'growing up' even means, especially with emotions.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Thu, 29 Oct 2026 13:17:24 GMT

woo@fosstodon.org — Thu, 29 Oct 2026 13:17:24 GMT

@sjpurrs I surprised myself a few days ago, by crying while reading 'Wind in the Willows' to my Grandson. I was 'doing the voices' when Mole returns to the home he abandoned. I mostly cry at things designed to upset children :-). People have suggested I never grew up.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Thu, 29 Oct 2026 00:18:03 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Thu, 29 Oct 2026 00:18:03 GMT

@Susan60 They sound like very healthy men.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:50:09 GMT

processparsnip@mastodon.ie — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:50:09 GMT

@sjpurrs good on ya.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:47:58 GMT

processparsnip@mastodon.ie — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:47:58 GMT

@LunaDragofelis

I'm so sorry you went through that.

@sjpurrs

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:28:04 GMT

faithinbones@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:28:04 GMT

@sjpurrs I agree

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:17:57 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:17:57 GMT

@FaithinBones He sounds like a wonderful dad and man. If more men had empathy and compassion, the world would be a much better place.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:16:27 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:16:27 GMT

@jcolag That's so true. Holding emotions in can be extremely "self-destructive".

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:10:22 GMT

jcolag@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:10:22 GMT

@sjpurrs "Men don't cry" is right up there with "men don't get enough fiber in their diets." In general, probably true, but turning problems inward to self-destructive effect doesn't really work as a point of pride or identity...

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:03:40 GMT

faithinbones@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:03:40 GMT

@sjpurrs my Dad had a temper but he did his best to control it. He had empathy and compassion and he loved his family. He was a terrific father

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:01:47 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 21:01:47 GMT

@VisualStuart ET is the perfect crying movie. When he lifts his finger and points to home, it just cracks me every time. All your crying moments are similar to mine and I think for all humans, to cry in these situations is a healthy emotional response.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 20:59:11 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 20:59:11 GMT

@FaithinBones Exactly! Why would it and why should it? I wish my dad had been like your dad rather than reverting to anger.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 20:58:09 GMT

sjpurrs@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 20:58:09 GMT

@LunaDragofelis I'm so sorry to hear about your story. Boys are often just left with anger as the only negative emotion they can use when a good cry would do a much better job of releasing all the stress and frustration.

Reply to Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". on Wed, 28 Oct 2026 18:01:54 GMT

dancingtreefrog@mastodon.social — Wed, 28 Oct 2026 18:01:54 GMT

@sjpurrs
Me, too!