When you post a reply under a post by someone else describing their emotions or experience with a specific situation and your reply is all about you and your experiences and emotions, you show a lack of empathy that immediately makes me feel suspicious.

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folfdk@helvede.net — Sat, 16 May 2026 18:13:51 GMT

If you don't me asking: is this something you experience often?

It sounds like you share this post because of a lived experience with your own posts, not just while reading other people's posts?

Being famous (ok ok, I might be stretching reality a bit, but compared to many people you are at least more famous than the average fediverse citizen) I would guess that you see much more interaction (like this one actually) with people you don't interact with frequently?

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jwildeboer@social.wildeboer.net — Sat, 16 May 2026 17:47:05 GMT

@drehumdiebolzen @larsmb That’s kind of the point. On text-based networks, we all lack the social cues that we send and receive in direct, personal communication and that often leads to miscommunication and jumping to wrong conclusions. One way many people seem to deal with this is by being self-centered. Which often kills a good discussion.

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drehumdiebolzen@social.cologne — Sat, 16 May 2026 17:14:11 GMT

@jwildeboer that was not what I wanted to say. I just wanted to point out, that it is quite a take to say „it is a lack of empathy if a reply to someone talking about their emotions is talking about their own emotions.“ if this statement was not a general statement but an expression of „I do not feel seen“ then I want to apologize. Written communication is lacking information… @larsmb

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jwildeboer@social.wildeboer.net — Sat, 16 May 2026 17:06:00 GMT

@drehumdiebolzen @larsmb being neurodivergent myself, that’s quite a character attack on me out of nowhere. Thanks, I guess?

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aubrieta@social.tchncs.de — Sat, 16 May 2026 17:00:45 GMT

@larsmb
Thanks Lars for mentioning this
It depends how it is done.
I often do it due to the reason you mentioned.

@jwildeboer

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drehumdiebolzen@social.cologne — Sat, 16 May 2026 16:57:43 GMT

@larsmb this!!! It’s relating and not the opposite. And for sure not a lack of empathy! Framing it as a lack of empathy could be seen as a lack of empathy for neurodivers persons… @jwildeboer

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larsmb@mastodon.online — Sat, 16 May 2026 16:29:16 GMT

@jwildeboer Yes. But I think it's a common divergence in how people relate, and how they express empathy (not the lack thereof).

"I thought about what you shared and it's part of my reality too".

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jwildeboer@social.wildeboer.net — Sat, 16 May 2026 16:23:35 GMT

@larsmb It also could result in being seen as unloading personal feelings on someone who might not be prepared or willing to handle that.

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larsmb@mastodon.online — Sat, 16 May 2026 16:02:40 GMT

@jwildeboer Yes, but also no(t always).

I think for some neurospicy minds, mirroring someone's experience into ours is a sign of relating and expressing empathy.

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fizzfizzpopop@veganism.social — Sat, 16 May 2026 15:55:29 GMT

@jwildeboer in my job yesterday I had something similar, I asked about the children's emotions and parent told me they (a unit) were fine, but told me how angry they the parent is with other parent , how unfair life is and how much the children (again, a unit) kick off when with this parent...