<![CDATA[Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining.]]>RE: https://dair-community.social/@emilymbender/110906329010147244

Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. What is it with the culture here? Why do all of these guys think it's so important to share their deep insights in my mentions when they can just post on their own feed? FFS.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/topic/ef88c255-27e9-4f1c-bab4-83d4ba9250d7/every-time-i-decide-to-post-a-thread-to-mastodon-i-m-hit-with-a-new-wave-of-mansplaining.RSS for NodeSat, 26 Sep 2026 00:16:58 GMTMon, 21 Sep 2026 22:10:21 GMT60<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:30:23 GMT]]>@jesuisatire I saw this. Stop doubling down on the mansplaining.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://apobangpo.space/users/dnkboston/statuses/117314225662892259https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://apobangpo.space/users/dnkboston/statuses/117314225662892259Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:30:23 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:27:50 GMT]]>@dnkboston

https://social.tchncs.de/@jesuisatire/117312177221697892

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.tchncs.de/users/jesuisatire/statuses/117314215628291976https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.tchncs.de/users/jesuisatire/statuses/117314215628291976Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:27:50 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:27:32 GMT]]>@lienrag my friend, allow me to remark on two aspects of your post:

1) Not every post needs a response, and not every response is useful
2) “media” is already plural

@emilymbender

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://chaos.social/users/slothrop/statuses/117314214438413122https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://chaos.social/users/slothrop/statuses/117314214438413122Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:27:32 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:07:47 GMT]]>@atanasoff Jesus Christ. What is your problem? @ZDL

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://apobangpo.space/users/dnkboston/statuses/117314136782879676https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://apobangpo.space/users/dnkboston/statuses/117314136782879676Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:07:47 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:05:34 GMT]]>@emilymbender I absolutely adore threads like this! I ban everyone in them -- both the mansplainers and the ones complaining about mansplaining

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.petko.me/users/petko/statuses/117314128084176197https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.petko.me/users/petko/statuses/117314128084176197Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:05:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:04:37 GMT]]>@emilymbender @lienrag I was thinking I have often found it less mansplainy than others networks then I looked at your area of expertise and thought oooohhhh yeah that's going to be rough around here. ❤️

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.circl.lu/users/quinn/statuses/117314124357752017https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.circl.lu/users/quinn/statuses/117314124357752017Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:04:37 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:02:20 GMT]]>@jesuisatire Who do you think you are? Sit down and stop trying to kick people off of the platform. And in general, be better.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://apobangpo.space/users/dnkboston/statuses/117314115390484387https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://apobangpo.space/users/dnkboston/statuses/117314115390484387Tue, 22 Sep 2026 10:02:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 09:52:31 GMT]]>@emilymbender that's sad. I appreciate your posts and insights, please continue sharing them here.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://todon.nl/users/audunmb/statuses/117314076772041893https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://todon.nl/users/audunmb/statuses/117314076772041893Tue, 22 Sep 2026 09:52:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:59:38 GMT]]>@toolbear
social.tchncs.de/@jesuisatire/…

@jesuisatire

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://tupambae.org/objects/0ac89072-796a-b243-7ac2-9e4629559482https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://tupambae.org/objects/0ac89072-796a-b243-7ac2-9e4629559482Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:59:38 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:48:26 GMT]]>@cstross @emilymbender It's depressing to see how regularly they come out of the woodwork to assert their right to mansplain.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodonapp.uk/users/HollieK72/statuses/117313824782800545https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodonapp.uk/users/HollieK72/statuses/117313824782800545Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:48:26 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:36:51 GMT]]>@Gargron I wonder if the automatic mentioning fill out could be turned off.
There are so often so many comments who are not even meant to be directed to the original author of a toot. Or they were written with not really believing it really reaches the person addressed (as it is on other networks).
But as the author got filled out without any questioning people believe it should be this way and leave it there not thinking how annoying it is to be mentioned without really being addressed.
So could you please turn off the auto-fill-mentioning?
So we get a healthier selection of toots that are really for us on purpose? Because we are only addressed if people really want to address us?
it's still possible to look at all the comments on purpose anyway...

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://sfba.social/users/daisE/statuses/117313779228230572https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://sfba.social/users/daisE/statuses/117313779228230572Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:36:51 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:33:42 GMT]]>@jesuisatire
This is the second time in this thread you have told Prof Bender she is unwelcome on this platform. Reported you and blocked your account.
@emilymbender

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://tech.lgbt/users/toolbear/statuses/117313766881547935https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://tech.lgbt/users/toolbear/statuses/117313766881547935Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:33:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:18:01 GMT]]>@emilymbender I don't think it's just you: my experience of Mastodon is that it can be stereotyped as mansplaining German linux nerds (with a secondary population of queer trans furry sysadmins).

At least we don't seem to have any Nazi billionaires (except for that Trump Guy running his own fork called truth.something) …

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://wandering.shop/users/cstross/statuses/117313705177523560https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://wandering.shop/users/cstross/statuses/117313705177523560Tue, 22 Sep 2026 08:18:01 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:51:42 GMT]]>@elasticsoul @emilymbender @mekkaokereke @Gargron my suggestion is to start calling the things with their name and move from the big tech culture of centralization to the grassroots culture of digital communities. There you can’t speak of “Mastodon” like you speak of Twitter, as a monolithic entity with its own culture, that is a software used by thousands of communities with thousands of policies and “local cultures”.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://sociale.network/users/gubi/statuses/117313601677550567https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://sociale.network/users/gubi/statuses/117313601677550567Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:51:42 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:49:34 GMT]]>@emilymbender There should really be an option that you can say 'only allow people I'm following or people in my mastodon network to reply'

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://fosstodon.org/users/matcha/statuses/117313593340022271https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://fosstodon.org/users/matcha/statuses/117313593340022271Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:49:34 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:36:30 GMT]]>@emilymbender people get so smug about masto being better than bsky or twitter. that may be. but the mansplaining is far worse here

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.xyz/users/Xibanya/statuses/117313541933659116https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.xyz/users/Xibanya/statuses/117313541933659116Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:36:30 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:32:08 GMT]]>@ZDL @codinghorror @Em0nM4stodon @mellifluousbox @renchap

I suspect there's a fair amount of plumbing work that needs to be done to support some of these features.

Just because someone submits some code doesn't make its inclusion automatic. If they have a specific bigger picture design in mind they're working towards, having a bolt on alternative that doesn't fit could make the job much harder down the line.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.me.uk/users/mackaj/statuses/117313524790985840https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.me.uk/users/mackaj/statuses/117313524790985840Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:32:08 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:22:40 GMT]]>@econads

"A" ?

@vonxylofon

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.tchncs.de/users/jesuisatire/statuses/117313487520440970https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.tchncs.de/users/jesuisatire/statuses/117313487520440970Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:22:40 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:19:31 GMT]]>@codinghorror @Em0nM4stodon @mellifluousbox @renchap

🤷‍♀️

There's a list of safety features that I've seen recommended and rejected as long as my arm. Some of them even had people submitting the actual code to implement it, only to get it rejected.

The Mastodon devs are just not interested in marginalized peoples. This is literally why Blacksky exists instead of Black Mastodon.

Perhaps, if you're a substantial funder, you could swing a bit of that funding weight around and get them to work?

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mstdn.social/users/ZDL/statuses/117313475180132862https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mstdn.social/users/ZDL/statuses/117313475180132862Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:19:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:16:22 GMT]]>@ZDL @Em0nM4stodon @mellifluousbox @renchap I don't feel that's true. And I'm a substantial funder of Mastodon if you look it up.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/codinghorror/statuses/117313462757475518https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://infosec.exchange/users/codinghorror/statuses/117313462757475518Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:16:22 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:05:31 GMT]]>@ZDL @emilymbender did they started their replies with "let me explain to you because you have a vagina" or you just assumed that?

I previously scrolled trough that post, I cannot go back now because the Professor has blocked me, but people were just sharing their own experiences, that's all.

If you are an expert in an area doesn't mean that other people cannot share an experience or have an opinion in the area.

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/ap/users/115793392981935759/statuses/117313420132048946https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mastodon.social/ap/users/115793392981935759/statuses/117313420132048946Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:05:31 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:02:15 GMT]]>@jesuisatire
Should be "you're". She's not A welcome.

@vonxylofon @emilymbender

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mendeddrum.org/users/econads/statuses/117313407224576921https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://mendeddrum.org/users/econads/statuses/117313407224576921Tue, 22 Sep 2026 07:02:15 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 06:58:20 GMT]]>@Em0nM4stodon @emilymbender @vonxylofon

(I wonder if anybody has made any research to find out the reasons behind the differences across networks. Is it a matter of population distribution? The difference in the way posts propagate across timelines? Something else?)

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://sociale.network/users/oblomov/statuses/117313391884969791https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://sociale.network/users/oblomov/statuses/117313391884969791Tue, 22 Sep 2026 06:58:20 GMT<![CDATA[Reply to Every time I decide to post a thread to Mastodon, I'm hit with a new wave of mansplaining. on Tue, 22 Sep 2026 06:50:58 GMT]]>@mackaj
https://witter.cz/@vonxylofon/117312989531229232
@emilymbender

]]>https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.tchncs.de/users/jesuisatire/statuses/117313362867196435https://forum.fedi.dk/post/https://social.tchncs.de/users/jesuisatire/statuses/117313362867196435Tue, 22 Sep 2026 06:50:58 GMT