Cis girls shouldn't date transphobic guys, either.
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Cis girls shouldn't date transphobic guys, either. If he's all "I wouldn't date a trans girl", walk away. He's a misogynist asshole who wants you for nothing but your reproductive body parts.
@faithisleaping @MeloGem But what if the cis girl herself is transphobic? Shouldn't she make sure the guy she's dating is also transphobic so if he cheats on her, at least it's with another cis girl?
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@faithisleaping @MeloGem But what if the cis girl herself is transphobic? Shouldn't she make sure the guy she's dating is also transphobic so if he cheats on her, at least it's with another cis girl?
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@MelissaBearTrix @faithisleaping @MeloGem But then they can blame lefty teachers for brainwashing their kid and vote for the Nazis because they will stomp out that dangerous gender ideology.
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Cis girls shouldn't date transphobic guys, either. If he's all "I wouldn't date a trans girl", walk away. He's a misogynist asshole who wants you for nothing but your reproductive body parts.
@faithisleaping transphobic girls either. A cis ex of mine told me that at some point before dating me, she hooked up with a girl at a club and only then realized she was a transphobic bigot. She was quite disgusted and after that she started asking more questions to girls before getting intimate, which incidentally helped her dodge a few bullets.
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@faithisleaping transphobic girls either. A cis ex of mine told me that at some point before dating me, she hooked up with a girl at a club and only then realized she was a transphobic bigot. She was quite disgusted and after that she started asking more questions to girls before getting intimate, which incidentally helped her dodge a few bullets.
@miranda_blue Yeah. Sorry. I didn’t mean that to be so straight.
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@MelissaBearTrix @faithisleaping @MeloGem But then they can blame lefty teachers for brainwashing their kid and vote for the Nazis because they will stomp out that dangerous gender ideology.
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@MeloGem @faithisleaping @MelissaBearTrix Sorry, my client is set to add boosters to any reply.
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@MeloGem You're probably the one who boosted. Some fedi platforms include the booster in replies. It's weird. And it has nothing to do with your instance and everything to do with discordian.social.
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@MeloGem You're probably the one who boosted. Some fedi platforms include the booster in replies. It's weird. And it has nothing to do with your instance and everything to do with discordian.social.
@faithisleaping @MeloGem @MelissaBearTrix I think it's mostly because of Moshidon, the Android client I use.
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@faithisleaping @MeloGem @MelissaBearTrix I think it's mostly because of Moshidon, the Android client I use.
@LordCaramac Oh, that could be, too. I've never 100% figured out who implemented that particular misfeature.
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@LordCaramac Oh, that could be, too. I've never 100% figured out who implemented that particular misfeature.
@faithisleaping @LordCaramac @MelissaBearTrix
ho ok thanks, and sorry hope it didn't felt harsh I just didn't get why I had multiple mentions on something I didn't interacted with.
thanks for your answers, have a great night!
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@faithisleaping @LordCaramac @MelissaBearTrix
ho ok thanks, and sorry hope it didn't felt harsh I just didn't get why I had multiple mentions on something I didn't interacted with.
thanks for your answers, have a great night!@MeloGem NO worries! It's a weird corner-case of fedi UI to be sure. I always get confused for a second when it happens to me, too.
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@LordCaramac Oh, that could be, too. I've never 100% figured out who implemented that particular misfeature.
@faithisleaping @LordCaramac @MeloGem @MelissaBearTrix
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@LordCaramac Oh, that could be, too. I've never 100% figured out who implemented that particular misfeature.
@faithisleaping @LordCaramac @MeloGem
Blame me ... I have no idea what I am doing ... Giggles
If I need to change something let me know
Hugz
Hugz & xXx
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@faithisleaping @LordCaramac @MeloGem
Blame me ... I have no idea what I am doing ... Giggles
If I need to change something let me know
Hugz
Hugz & xXx
@MelissaBearTrix @faithisleaping @LordCaramac
you're sweet, no it doesn't seem to be on you, thanks! -
@faithisleaping @LordCaramac @MeloGem @MelissaBearTrix
I've used Moshidon for a couple of years and have never seen that feature.@leeloo @faithisleaping @MeloGem @MelissaBearTrix It's in the main settings, it was activated for some reason.
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@leeloo @faithisleaping @MeloGem @MelissaBearTrix It's in the main settings, it was activated for some reason.
@LordCaramac @faithisleaping @MeloGem @MelissaBearTrix
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Cis girls shouldn't date transphobic guys, either. If he's all "I wouldn't date a trans girl", walk away. He's a misogynist asshole who wants you for nothing but your reproductive body parts.
@faithisleaping genuinely asking, how is that transphobic? you can't control who you are and aren't attracted to and telling people who they are and aren't allowed to date doesn't tend to end well, and i believe no one's entitled to a relationship if the other person isn't willing. -
@faithisleaping genuinely asking, how is that transphobic? you can't control who you are and aren't attracted to and telling people who they are and aren't allowed to date doesn't tend to end well, and i believe no one's entitled to a relationship if the other person isn't willing.
@arh When you dissect, "I wouldn't date a trans girl", what does it actually mean?
You like short girls? Okay, fine. Yeah, lots of us are tall. You don't have to be into that. But so are most cis girls who made the basketball team. You find high, sing-songy voices attractive? Okay, that's fine. You don't have to be attracted to Margot Robbie. You want your sexual partner to have a vagina? Okay, that's fine. Lots of trans girls have those, too. And, no, there isn't a massive difference that will make sex worse for the guy.
Or maybe you want to have biological kids and don't want to adopt or use a surrogate? Okay, valid. But also, lots of cis girls can't or don't want to have kids and most don't actually know if they'll have problems until you try. You can go into the relationship hoping for that but that's no guarantee. So regardless of how you go into the relationship, you had better be prepared for the possibility that that dream doesn't come true.
So if you actually take something like that and break it down to actual dating preferences that actually affect the hypothetical guy, none of them are actually a cis/trans distinction. The reality is that dating a trans girl is just like dating any other girl.
But, really, what most people mean when they say that is "I find trans people disgusting" and that's just transphobia.
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@arh When you dissect, "I wouldn't date a trans girl", what does it actually mean?
You like short girls? Okay, fine. Yeah, lots of us are tall. You don't have to be into that. But so are most cis girls who made the basketball team. You find high, sing-songy voices attractive? Okay, that's fine. You don't have to be attracted to Margot Robbie. You want your sexual partner to have a vagina? Okay, that's fine. Lots of trans girls have those, too. And, no, there isn't a massive difference that will make sex worse for the guy.
Or maybe you want to have biological kids and don't want to adopt or use a surrogate? Okay, valid. But also, lots of cis girls can't or don't want to have kids and most don't actually know if they'll have problems until you try. You can go into the relationship hoping for that but that's no guarantee. So regardless of how you go into the relationship, you had better be prepared for the possibility that that dream doesn't come true.
So if you actually take something like that and break it down to actual dating preferences that actually affect the hypothetical guy, none of them are actually a cis/trans distinction. The reality is that dating a trans girl is just like dating any other girl.
But, really, what most people mean when they say that is "I find trans people disgusting" and that's just transphobia.
@arh And a huge amount of the panic we see online from these guys is because they find a cute girl on the internet that are attracted to and then find out she's trans and have a meltdown over it. If they weren't attracted, they'd just scroll on by.
