Yesterday we went to visit some friends up the coast, and after lunch we went to their apartment.
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Yesterday we went to visit some friends up the coast, and after lunch we went to their apartment.
It hit me like a ton of bricks that I might be a tad obsessive, because their apartment was so full of stuff, so scattered with THINGS, so disordered and messy that I almost couldn't breathe.
I didn't think I was that way. It's not that I judge them by it, but that my own senses get totally overwhelmed by it. I can't focus on a conversation, even.
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Yesterday we went to visit some friends up the coast, and after lunch we went to their apartment.
It hit me like a ton of bricks that I might be a tad obsessive, because their apartment was so full of stuff, so scattered with THINGS, so disordered and messy that I almost couldn't breathe.
I didn't think I was that way. It's not that I judge them by it, but that my own senses get totally overwhelmed by it. I can't focus on a conversation, even.
Of course, today I'm prepping for some guests coming for lunch tomorrow, and I'm thinking.... should I mess the place up a bit?
Do I live in a sterile environment? If mess could make me feel uncomfortable, does excessive order make other people feel uncomfortable?
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Of course, today I'm prepping for some guests coming for lunch tomorrow, and I'm thinking.... should I mess the place up a bit?
Do I live in a sterile environment? If mess could make me feel uncomfortable, does excessive order make other people feel uncomfortable?
@Remittancegirl do you need a roommate?
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Of course, today I'm prepping for some guests coming for lunch tomorrow, and I'm thinking.... should I mess the place up a bit?
Do I live in a sterile environment? If mess could make me feel uncomfortable, does excessive order make other people feel uncomfortable?
@Remittancegirl yes, it does. I like order, but definitely not too much.
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@Remittancegirl do you need a roommate?
@CartyBoston hahahah. Will you come mess my place up?
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@Remittancegirl yes, it does. I like order, but definitely not too much.
@EvelineSulman I can see how it could, although I don't understand it on an emotional level. Maybe a little messiness makes people feel relaxed?
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@EvelineSulman I can see how it could, although I don't understand it on an emotional level. Maybe a little messiness makes people feel relaxed?
@Remittancegirl it makes me feel comfortable because I see that people are really living there. And perhaps see what kind of people they are: which books, which newspaper, toys, etc.
Oh, and even more comfortable because I remember my own mess...
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Yesterday we went to visit some friends up the coast, and after lunch we went to their apartment.
It hit me like a ton of bricks that I might be a tad obsessive, because their apartment was so full of stuff, so scattered with THINGS, so disordered and messy that I almost couldn't breathe.
I didn't think I was that way. It's not that I judge them by it, but that my own senses get totally overwhelmed by it. I can't focus on a conversation, even.
@Remittancegirl One of the reasons I'm so absolutely terrible at having guests in is my latent fear that what I consider a home will somehow, for some reason, make other people have this sort of experience - a fear only exacerbated by the thought that they won't tell me
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@MaksiSanctum At 64 years old, I am pretty confident in my life choices and what I require for comfort. My sense of self is pretty firmly rooted by now..
I am interested in your apparent (perhaps I'm not reading it right?) opposition to doing/changing things for other people to make them comfortable in your environment.
As if somehow it is a betrayal of one's own sense of self to make any change that might make another person more comfortable. M
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Yesterday we went to visit some friends up the coast, and after lunch we went to their apartment.
It hit me like a ton of bricks that I might be a tad obsessive, because their apartment was so full of stuff, so scattered with THINGS, so disordered and messy that I almost couldn't breathe.
I didn't think I was that way. It's not that I judge them by it, but that my own senses get totally overwhelmed by it. I can't focus on a conversation, even.
Hopefully had a good time anyway
I can remember inviting some friends round for the first time a couple of years ago.
"You probably think we're a bit minimalist" I said.
"No," said one of them looking around, " You look like you've been burgled." -
Hopefully had a good time anyway
I can remember inviting some friends round for the first time a couple of years ago.
"You probably think we're a bit minimalist" I said.
"No," said one of them looking around, " You look like you've been burgled."@Fragarach I look like I’ve been burgled by someone who doesn’t like plants
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Hopefully had a good time anyway
I can remember inviting some friends round for the first time a couple of years ago.
"You probably think we're a bit minimalist" I said.
"No," said one of them looking around, " You look like you've been burgled."@Fragarach @Remittancegirl Ten years ago the polis were called to a tenement in Glasgow when a friends door was damage (they were away for the weekend). They returned when an officer was still there and he announced that he was afraid they had been burgled. They rushed in, looked around and announced , no, it always looked like that..
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@Remittancegirl That's what I try to tell myself...
