The way that you, as an adult, react to creatures has a massive impact on young people watching you.
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Even kids who don't trust what adults *say* will still watch how they react to things and use that to inform their own reactions.
Thought it's always sad when a child has had to learn that trusting adults isn't safe. It's a failure on the part of the adults in their life.
@futurebird basically, do the opposite of whatever the adults say and do is what I learned.
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A strange possibly scary creature seems less strange when you can tell what it is doing and that it... you know has a head and likes to do things like eat just like you do.
A monster is a thing you can't understand at all, it could do anything. A little bee drinking nectar isn't a monster.
@futurebird and yet I have reacted with disgust and horror to a number of the creatures my children have brought me and it seems to have no effect at all.
They just keep bringing me crane fly larva and expecting me to love them as much as they do.
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Bees and wasps will be attracted to people with some perfumes on. So if a kid tells you a bee is chasing them, it might be true.
If you are taking your urban kids to some place with... creatures ... remind them not to wear perfumes or flowery soaps if they can help it.
If a bee or wasp starts doing this it's best to stay still. She will realize there isn't a flower and leave but if she get swatted at she may get scared and then you have a problem.
@futurebird What about clothing colors? (Anecdotally, one particular yellow t-shirt of a friend of mine seemed to attract insects, but we might have confused ourselves by noticing only positive examples.) -
The way that you, as an adult, react to creatures has a massive impact on young people watching you.
If you scream when you see a bee, they will scream too. After all you have survived in this world much longer than they have and you are scared, so they need to be scared too.
Even if you are scared you can model better reactions. And it works really well.
完全同意。我小时候本来不怕虫子，但看到一个大人惊慌失措的样子，后来也变得很害怕。直到现在还在努力克服这种反射性的恐惧。
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@futurebird What about clothing colors? (Anecdotally, one particular yellow t-shirt of a friend of mine seemed to attract insects, but we might have confused ourselves by noticing only positive examples.)
This is totally possible. Bees and wasps have excellent color vision and the colors of flowers are made to attract them.
They are also sensitive to UV colors that we can't see.
That we also think flowers are pretty and like how many of them smells just shows we have similar taste in such matters as bees.
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@futurebird basically, do the opposite of whatever the adults say and do is what I learned.
That really sucks. I'm sorry they weren't more honest and there for you more.
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The way that you, as an adult, react to creatures has a massive impact on young people watching you.
If you scream when you see a bee, they will scream too. After all you have survived in this world much longer than they have and you are scared, so they need to be scared too.
Even if you are scared you can model better reactions. And it works really well.
@futurebird
It literally took me 30 years to get over my mother's fear of snakes. -
@futurebird last summer I had some wasps buzzing around while I was eating a blizzard outside a Dairy Queen, and when people started flapping their hands and standing up, I showed them that you can just tap a little scoop out on the far end of the table and they’ll all go over there and leave you, um, be.
People looking at me like a Martian when I said, these guys are out here trying to make a buck just like the rest of us, make it easy for them and they’ll mind their own business.
@mhoye @futurebird My respect for wasps took a huge jump when I, as a child, sat outside with a ham sandwich. A wasp came by, landed on the ham, quickly cut out and left with a perfectly circular piece of the rim of fat on the ham
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That really sucks. I'm sorry they weren't more honest and there for you more.
@futurebird I learned everything I know from a dog. It's ok.
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In the 90s, I 'briefly' lived with a young woman who had two cats, and her lounge carpet was ALIVE with cat-fleas. I did comment about it to her, and her take was "well, they don't ever bite ME! It must be YOU!"
@bytebro @futurebird fleas don't just cause problems if they bite. They spread diseases, and are not good for the animals, either.
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@futurebird I have a modest proposal
@WesternInfidels @futurebird Eyebomb Ladybug only has eyes for you.
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@futurebird I have a modest proposal
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@bytebro @futurebird fleas don't just cause problems if they bite. They spread diseases, and are not good for the animals, either.
For sure. The actual bites would (still do) irritate me a lot. Maybe Kate just didn't emit the correct pheromones, or was perhaps immune?!
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The way that you, as an adult, react to creatures has a massive impact on young people watching you.
If you scream when you see a bee, they will scream too. After all you have survived in this world much longer than they have and you are scared, so they need to be scared too.
Even if you are scared you can model better reactions. And it works really well.
@futurebird
Grandkids were over yesterday. I’m always sooo happy they are curious & want to be outside. They’re 4 & 2. They don’t want tablets or cell phones (for now, I hope it lives long).
They both love dinosaurs, bugs, birds, plants.
What a hoot! -
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