There is a girl named Alexis coming over today to hang out with my daughter.
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There is a girl named Alexis coming over today to hang out with my daughter.
She’s dating another of my daughter’s friends who is lesbian and openly had a crush on my daughter but they talked about how they had to stay friends because my daughter is straight. That whole situation was no big deal.
Now she’s dating Alexis, who’s been over a few times and seems really engaging for a middle schooler. She just kind of hangs out in an easy-going manner. We’ve had talks about fashion and cooking and music.
She goes by Alex with her parents and non-school friends. I thought that was a nickname like I have for my kids. I was gonna text her parents and my daughter said very seriously “make sure you use he/him pronouns when you talk about her.”
It turns out she is an out Trans girl in middle school, and all her friends protect her by flipping name and pronouns as easily as code-switching. Like, they all think of her as a girl, and they flip to he/him without even really thinking about it.
This is so amazing to me. And so so sad. Like that poor girl is in middle school and already has friends she can trust with her true self more than her family.
@FinalGirl We have the EXACT situation going on here with my kid. The other kid’s parents are strict and very catholic. It’s quite sad because they ground them for the littlest of things and are basically terrible parents. We’ve told them they are always welcome and safe in our home, which I hope is reassuring. You know teenagers.
But even the schools here are welcoming and follow their preferences, which I think is awesome.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
@FinalGirl This is that existence is resistance stuff - you make it possible for her to imagine a future for herself. It's wonderful and magical and powerful. So glad she got to meet your daughter and you
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
@FinalGirl this is so fucking cool. Good on u! The queer youth look up to u
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@FinalGirl We have the EXACT situation going on here with my kid. The other kid’s parents are strict and very catholic. It’s quite sad because they ground them for the littlest of things and are basically terrible parents. We’ve told them they are always welcome and safe in our home, which I hope is reassuring. You know teenagers.
But even the schools here are welcoming and follow their preferences, which I think is awesome.
@FeloniousPunk I lived at a couple other friends houses for periods in high school and I told my partner that if that situation comes up I’m gonna allow it and she’s gonna have to deal with it because that literally saved my life.
It’s so bizarre thinking of myself as still that little girl who can barely survive and realizing that to another little girl, I’m the success story.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
@FinalGirl this is so amazing and bright. It brings me so much joy seeing the next generation being so progressive and seeing them look up to people who can be out and true and just live their lives. It makes the risks of never trying to stealth worth it.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
@FinalGirl hell yeah you do. Being able to be a "boring mom" is the kind of representation I didn't see when I was a queer kid (and I'm still not out to my parents, lol; my boyfriend has had to do this name/pronouns code switching when we visited my family)
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@FinalGirl This is that existence is resistance stuff - you make it possible for her to imagine a future for herself. It's wonderful and magical and powerful. So glad she got to meet your daughter and you
@JoscelynTransient Transitioning in public in a small, mountain town sucked. It really, really sucked. I am “The Trans woman” and everyone knows it. I wanted to just disappear.
But now my marriage counselor’s words keep sinking in. “Being yourself in the open will set so many other people free.”
Damn.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
I want to be that adult so badly for someone.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
@FinalGirl I don't know what it's like exactly for a trans kid growing up these days. So like us, so unlike us. They know who they are, but they're growing up being gaslit by every arm of the media into thinking they're either ridiculous or dangerous. One day they're "trenders" who will change their minds in three months, and the next, part of a sinister force that will destroy the country just by existing.
When so much of the world around us cannot be fucking normal about us, I guess it makes sense that "normal" is the most powerful thing we can be.
I'm gonna burn down the fabric of society? Please. I'm just trying not to burn these pizzas.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
This is the most hopeful thing I've read in years and it brings me to tears.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
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And it turns out that I…mean something… to her.
Like, I’m just a normal mom, making pizza dough for a sleepover, making dinner, complaining that her daughter won’t clean her room.
I’m just a boring, annoying mom. And Alexis apparently sees me as a symbol of hope.
@FinalGirl She trusts you. That big!
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