@KatyElphinstone That’s a good list. A few of mine are slight rephrases: that I assume equality between parties (may be related to you social hierarchy one), that I assume people say what they mean (taking words seriously), and that people are capable of negotiating what they need (direct communication). My rule zero, though, is that I don’t intuitively prioritize performance of social agreeability with human social pack dynamics, and this seems to be the crux of my disconnect.