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„The families that lived without conflict were those in which the hierarchy of work was not disputed. Where women sought to disrupt the hierarchy there was conflict.“
This is what women face in so many other areas as well. Workplace, clubs, politics: it’s fine for them to participate and even hold an office as long as the hierarchy isn’t challenged. Decisions are in line with what a man would have done. No uncomfortable questions that would disrupt privilege, please.