@EdCates @johnzajac This is honestly one of my (least) favourite things about "liberal society". You can say to a friend "fuckin' gorgeous night we're having here, innit?" in earshot of a cop in a bad mood, and find yourself with a breach-of-the-peace fine. Or you can shit out one of the most hateful sentences ever uttered, but do it with the tone of civility, and you'll get published on the BBC News as a "respected author".
"Civility" is just shorthand for "a mechanism, defined in the moment, the absence of which becomes the excuse to silence those who have been traumatised by the systems which make rich people rich, less they say or do something inconvenient to those systems".