@Natasha_Jay And the manosphere is so upset about the idea of trans women, because they know we have the receipts. We have been around men when they thought there were only other men around. We know how much worse they are when they think there are no women in the room.

Some of us tried to push back on misogyny, and were told, “it’s a joke,” “don’t get your panties in a twist,” or were “playfully” threatened and insulted. Treated the way they treat women. And while the predators were doing this, a few of the others either chuckled along or were silent. Very occasionally, there would be one man who would agree that misogyny was unacceptable. Once a second had spoken up against the predator, the tide quickly turned. This was unfortunately not a frequency occurrence.

Men, if you aren’t actively tryjng to shut down misogyny every time you hear it, no matter the impact that pushback might have on you, then your silence will be seen as tacit acceptance by the other men. And however much you might think you are one of the “good guys,” you will be furthering misogyny.

Good men speak up. Good men know it is not “just a joke.” Good men don’t let other men demean women, whether or not they think there are women present.