As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth.
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe?@johnrohde @QasimRashid maybe you could help in the male community instead. Speak out? Ask women what would help?
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@YKantRachelRead @johnrohde@helvede.net @QasimRashid Well John just got blocked!
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@HappyCrow13 @QasimRashid a lot of people don’t care until it happens to them.
When a man in my friend group climbed into my bed and tried something while I was sleeping after I let him crash on my couch so he didn’t get a DUI trying to get home, a whole bunch of people in my friend group were like “well he didn’t do anything to ME” to justify continuing to be friends with that man without calling me a liar.
Needless to say I stopped being friends with those people.
Men need to hold their friends to better standards if they don’t want to get grouped in with their bad behavior. “He hasn’t done anything to me so he’s cool” is enabling behavior.
@maggiejk @QasimRashid Yeah I know too many men like that. I no longer stay quiet about it and have broken many friendships because they didn't like the truth.
I was blamed for my abusive marriage. The men tended to side with my ex cuz I'm a 'hard woman to get along with' and 'he works hard cut him some slack' The couple of women (my mom included) were also in abusive relationships and didn't want to admit it and get help to end it so they found reasons to fault me -
@maggiejk @QasimRashid Yeah I know too many men like that. I no longer stay quiet about it and have broken many friendships because they didn't like the truth.
I was blamed for my abusive marriage. The men tended to side with my ex cuz I'm a 'hard woman to get along with' and 'he works hard cut him some slack' The couple of women (my mom included) were also in abusive relationships and didn't want to admit it and get help to end it so they found reasons to fault me@maggiejk @QasimRashid I'm more angry at the men because they refuse to accept they're as culpable as my ex. They openly encouraged and engaged in abusive behaviors and deriding women
The women who blamed me were not nearly as eager and wholehearted about it. After a couple of good yelling sessions from me they seemed to accept they were wrong and started helping themselves
The men could only call me a stupid slut that hurts me cuz I'm angry at them
Yeah I'm good not being friends with any men -
As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid Another reply cuz I want to remind men\male leaning folks that if you do not discourage and pushback against what your friends and brothers do, you're just as bad as them.
Doing nothing is also a choice. You choosing to do nothing to stop the violence is the very thing that makes it worse
Until every man does something about this, it's yes all men and always will be all men.
A bear in the woods is nothing compared to a man on the street, in your store or in your life -
@Timeless con....grats on posting a screenshotted slop summary that has nothing to do with the parent post. I'm owned. owie ouchie.
@YKantRachelRead @Timeless maybe the first reply was slop generated too?
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@YKantRachelRead @Timeless maybe the first reply was slop generated too?
Hey, you gave yourself away when you defended anarchists; you're both enemies of the common good. Always tryna to distract people from creating a system that could actually defeat capitalism.
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Every accusation is a confession. Say Hi to you're handler at Langley.
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe?@johnrohde@helvede.net @QasimRashid@mastodon.social
The author provides 10 courses of action for men to take in the article. -
As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe?@johnrohde @QasimRashid dear John, did you read the whole article? Do you really consider necessary your comment and an actual contribution to this topic?
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe? -
@YKantRachelRead @johnrohde@helvede.net @QasimRashid Well John just got blocked!
@dbattistella @YKantRachelRead
@_L1vY_Unless I am missing something I think some of us are being a bit harsh sure @johnrohde 's response is problematic and indicates a patriarchal background but we will remain divided with these dog-pile comments.
@johnrohde as @QasimRashid wrote, "Discomfort is the beginning of accountability".
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@QasimRashid Men aren't safe around men either. You know that, right?
Also, men are more likely to die preventable violent deaths, be seriously injured by random violence, and die from preventable diseases.
Statistically men are in more danger than women, every day, all the time, from everything and you only need to look into an OAP home to see who is outliving whom.
In summary, feeling safe and being safe are not the same thing. Safety is not and can not be guaranteed for anyone, ever.
short version of your post “#NotAllMen”
Every single time anyone posts about why men are dangerous or why women rightly fear us, it is a bankable guarantee that some fella will turn up to say, in some format, why they’re wrong.
Bankable
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