```Datestodon — Fedi dating posts
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Datestodon — Fedi dating postsUsage:
#Datestodon #[AGE][ME]4[YOU] #LOCATION DESCRIPTIONAge:
Y 18–30s (younger)
A 30s–50s (adult)
O 50s+ (older)Gender:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M MascLooking for:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M Masc
A AnyExamples:
#Datestodon #AN4A #Seattle
Poly enby tomboy open to dates with FWB possibilities.#Datestodon #YF4M #Portland
20s femme rock-climber seeking fun guy.#Datestodon #OM4M #London
Gay 63yo - London area. Looking for partner.Notes:
- Codes are shorthand, not compatibility filters.
- Orientation and "YOU" age are intentionally not encoded.
- Use the description for sexuality, relationship style, preferences, boundaries, and anything else that matters.
- Multiple "YOU" categories may be combined when useful.
- Keep it human: read the post, respect boundaries, and don't treat codes as permission to contact someone.
```@alice
Dang it, mid. Now I feel old! -
@alice
Dang it, mid. Now I feel old! -
@alice These are all very good points, yes! Everything you've described here lends itself well to more organic discovery, something I appreciate when meeting people offline. I'm strongly in favor of systems that get people off of their devices and interacting with others IRL. Keeping it simple, organic, and messy (i.e. human) is the right approach here
In retrospect, I agree that adding categories or the like would make it scrapable and I wouldn't want that, either. The apps are all about that kind of filtering and just. It feels so minmax-y if you get what I mean? Like using sliders to design a "perfect" partner.That turned into a bit of a word salad ramble, but maybe there's something useful in it?
@loonling I made some improvements and formatted it nicely for markdown (I hope
). Thanks for the feedback 
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Datestodon — Fedi dating postsUsage:
#Datestodon #[AGE][ME]4[YOU] #LOCATION DESCRIPTIONAge:
Y 18–30s (younger)
A 30s–50s (adult)
O 50s+ (older)Gender:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M MascLooking for:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M Masc
A AnyExamples:
#Datestodon #AN4A #Seattle
Poly enby tomboy open to dates with FWB possibilities.#Datestodon #YF4M #Portland
20s femme rock-climber seeking fun guy.#Datestodon #OM4M #London
Gay 63yo - London area. Looking for partner.Notes:
- Codes are shorthand, not compatibility filters.
- Orientation and "YOU" age are intentionally not encoded.
- Use the description for sexuality, relationship style, preferences, boundaries, and anything else that matters.
- Multiple "YOU" categories may be combined when useful.
- Keep it human: read the post, respect boundaries, and don't treat codes as permission to contact someone.
```@alice seems cool
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Datestodon — Fedi dating postsUsage:
#Datestodon #[AGE][ME]4[YOU] #LOCATION DESCRIPTIONAge:
Y 18–30s (younger)
A 30s–50s (adult)
O 50s+ (older)Gender:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M MascLooking for:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M Masc
A AnyExamples:
#Datestodon #AN4A #Seattle
Poly enby tomboy open to dates with FWB possibilities.#Datestodon #YF4M #Portland
20s femme rock-climber seeking fun guy.#Datestodon #OM4M #London
Gay 63yo - London area. Looking for partner.Notes:
- Codes are shorthand, not compatibility filters.
- Orientation and "YOU" age are intentionally not encoded.
- Use the description for sexuality, relationship style, preferences, boundaries, and anything else that matters.
- Multiple "YOU" categories may be combined when useful.
- Keep it human: read the post, respect boundaries, and don't treat codes as permission to contact someone.
```@alice
Can we think of some different way to represent age? I'm not sure how many people will be willing to call themselves "Old". I presume that's what "O" stands for.Perhaps Rare, Medium, and Well done?
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Datestodon — Fedi dating postsUsage:
#Datestodon #[AGE][ME]4[YOU] #LOCATION DESCRIPTIONAge:
Y 18–30s (younger)
A 30s–50s (adult)
O 50s+ (older)Gender:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M MascLooking for:
F Femme
N Nonbinary/agender
M Masc
A AnyExamples:
#Datestodon #AN4A #Seattle
Poly enby tomboy open to dates with FWB possibilities.#Datestodon #YF4M #Portland
20s femme rock-climber seeking fun guy.#Datestodon #OM4M #London
Gay 63yo - London area. Looking for partner.Notes:
- Codes are shorthand, not compatibility filters.
- Orientation and "YOU" age are intentionally not encoded.
- Use the description for sexuality, relationship style, preferences, boundaries, and anything else that matters.
- Multiple "YOU" categories may be combined when useful.
- Keep it human: read the post, respect boundaries, and don't treat codes as permission to contact someone.
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@alice
Can we think of some different way to represent age? I'm not sure how many people will be willing to call themselves "Old". I presume that's what "O" stands for.Perhaps Rare, Medium, and Well done?
@Quasit I went back and forth on a bunch of options, and the relative set "younger, adult, older" seemed the set with the fewest issues, but I'm still not very happy with it.
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@Quasit I went back and forth on a bunch of options, and the relative set "younger, adult, older" seemed the set with the fewest issues, but I'm still not very happy with it.
I was working on possibilities, but maybe it would be better to keep things simple.
One thing I've been wondering is if it's possible to search based on more than one hashtag at a time. For example, could you search for partners of the appropriate criteria in the location of my choice?
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@Quasit I'm open to arguments either way, but I figured that dating is just a part of local life, so it could be included in the general location hashtag. That also makes it more discoverable when just looking at local posts.
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I was working on possibilities, but maybe it would be better to keep things simple.
One thing I've been wondering is if it's possible to search based on more than one hashtag at a time. For example, could you search for partners of the appropriate criteria in the location of my choice?
@Quasit well, the location tag doesn't have to be *your* location (for instance if you're moving somewhere or visit regularly). I think it's fine to include a couple locations if you split time too.
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