Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

[64bithero@mstdn.games]

@alex02 @vkc go to Twitter go to Bluesky. She’s not asking for argument.

[claudiaxm@mstdn.ca]

@vkc I’m sorry for what you went through. Hope you’re doing ok.

[bob@beamship.mpaq.org]

@mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

Been searching but no luck finding a site that would let someone "report a bad user"...

[jaykass@mastodon.online]

@vkc
Gods dang it, fedi. Be better.

[travisfw@fosstodon.org]

@vkc okay, how to take responsibility for fedi culture. Hmm. Sure can look for it and push back, if I happen to see it at the right time, but that seems minimal.
I wonder if anyone has tried setting up a honeypot for sexual harassment?

[njwookie@mindly.social]

@vkc

Sorry this happen to you. There are fighters out there but it's a tough fight and big Fediverse.

Fedi needs a hashtag that is a call to action to fight harassment and bigotry. Blocking or muting isn't enough. There should be a way to call in the Calvary to defend those being attacked.

Simply reply with #StompTheBully (or something) and the good guys show up to shut things down. Summon the guard dogs and we'll show up. As 6'5" father of a mess of daughters nothing makes me happier when my crew needs me for some "Big Dog Energy".

[orb2069@mastodon.online]

@moondog548
This is the way.

@haltroy @vkc

[dcgirl@boop.city]

@vkc people want women on the fediverse? That’s news to me.

[anne_twain@theblower.au]

@vkc Yeah it's amazing how, when you talk about arsehole behaviour on social media, arseholes arrive to demonstrate exactly what you were talking about.

[bredroll@mas.to]

@vkc holy shit, why do assholes feel the need to come out of the swamp! so sorry you (and everyone else) have had to undure that kind of crap

[david@tech.lgbt]

@vkc using the negative comments that you have gotten to add some suspends on our instance. You are better to have here than all of them combined, easily.

[alexpsmith@beige.party]

@cobweb @vkc @eq Oh, they know. They support the shit, that's the problem.

[luana@wetdry.world]

@cyberwitch @vkc that’s exactly what instance moderators do, all the time.

But if you self-host an instance (like Veronica does) that’s on you, you’re choosing to be your only moderator so you have to moderate. Moderating sucks, and that’s not exclusive to the fediverse at all. If you don’t want to deal with that, you can always go to an instance hosted by someone else who deals with this. There is literally nothing other people can do to defederate people from someone else’s instance (there are blocklists I think tho?).

[julia@eepy.moe]

@vkc@linuxmom.net this is the reason I haven't spoken out about the NUMEROUS times it's affected me

[numerfolt@kirche.social]

@vkc @eq Aye

[alexpsmith@beige.party]

@alex02 @vkc You are here at her sufferance, not because you have the right to say whatever the fuck you want- on a post about sexual harassment, no less. What an entitled prick.

[db@magrathea.space]

@alex02 There was nothing obnoxious or hostile about Veronica’s response to you. You did hijack the thread and make it about yourself. Don’t do that. @vkc

[eskealler@mastodon.social]

@vkc I'll fight sexual harassment anyday.

[sri@mastodon.social]

@mloxton @RegGuy @bob @vkc which is why you believe women / PoC when they point it out.

[mina@berlin.social]

@vkc

So sorry, you had to go through this!

Just because we're in "the good place", we shouldn't assume that misogyny, racism and other ugly stuff doesn't find its way here.

It definitely exists, and it often hides behind false solidarity ("They're a good one, look at all the good they wrote and did. You misunderstood and are just overreacting.")

Awareness is the first step.

Abuse has to fought everywhere!