It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
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It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
People are shit and companies are shit all the time and nobody bats an eye. But do volunteer work for your FOSS community, start a project that tries to do things more ethically, just be visibly not shit, and people left and right come out of the woodwork to point out all the ways in which you are not being absolutely flawless and perfect, and all the work that needs doing that you're not yet taking upon you.
The people actually doing the work are also the people who are being asked to do even more, and who are being critised the most. It's a really insiduous pattern and we all need to be better at recognising it and squashing it.
Wow this is really resonating with people, eh? Welcome followers
BTW I organise a really cool conference you should come
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> this is huge and kills the left
I often say "we divide ourselves to be conquered".
Commons janitoring is unthankful work. I found that the 90/9/1 rule generally holds in a community, where one procent are truly active, 9% sporadically, and the rest is mostly passive. But I also found that "community" is often overrated. The word is too easily used, while actually just a bunch of people came together on completely different expectations, where expectation mismatch makes 90/9/1 about the best outcome you can get.
I also think those people coming out of the woodwork @benroyce mentions, who are on the sidelines being overly critical, exhibit the social dynamics of a Purity Spiral. A social anti-pattern with very nasty characteristics, that leads to a lose-lose situation for the community as a whole, and only benefits vocal extremists in the in-group. It's a difficult anti-pattern to counteract as the extremist will use any arguments of reason as red meat and turn up the heat.
At Social coding commons I am investigating different forms of collaboration, like Hedonic peer production. Here collaborative arrangements are sought by looking at what intrinsically motivates people to be proactive participants, and that on an ongoing basis..
https://coding.social/blog/reimagine-social/#hedonic-peer-production
And how through such collaborations an effective affiliation network may shape up on the basis of chaordic organization, and emergence (which can be triggered and steered)..
https://coding.social/blog/reimagine-social/#chaordic-organization
The fediverse with its millions of fedizens is a perfect space where that may take place, with humane technology support on the social network. So that cross-pollination takes can take place at scale, and - who knows - eventually a commons based value economy emerges..
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It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
People are shit and companies are shit all the time and nobody bats an eye. But do volunteer work for your FOSS community, start a project that tries to do things more ethically, just be visibly not shit, and people left and right come out of the woodwork to point out all the ways in which you are not being absolutely flawless and perfect, and all the work that needs doing that you're not yet taking upon you.
The people actually doing the work are also the people who are being asked to do even more, and who are being critised the most. It's a really insiduous pattern and we all need to be better at recognising it and squashing it.
@plexus In the comments, people correctly point out that this is a very familiar pattern. It still hit me as a good take when I read it. I think it's because of the combination with pointing out that accountability for acting selfishly has completely disappeared, so there's a really sharp contrast now.
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beautifully said
i would add it's fertile ground for the right wing agent provocateur to cosplay left and roleplay at hypercritical perfectionism and start many fires
people who think their toxic idealism is "doing something" need to realize how lazy, easy and shallow their "effort" is. any vaguely proficient troll can mimic it
so real divide and conquer has an easy entrance to slide into the self-divide and conquer you refer to
perfectionism is a hell of a self-own
! There's a Wikipedia page on the Purity Spiral, but its quite meagre in information it provides. The purity spiral benefits opposite extremes, and is a perfect tool for the right as a weapon to sow division and strife. Just throw in the red meat and close the door, then take popcorn and watch the fight ensue..https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purity_spiral
The one-sided description on this page is quite on the mark though:
> "Purity spiral" is a term for a form of infighting between activists and members of victim groups, in which they seek to outdo each other in zealotry. This self-reinforcing feedback loop is sometimes called "moral outbidding".
Ways to counteract the purity spiral involve the whole group being aware of the anti-pattern and be vocal together to bring back reason and calm. But many people often don't dare to counteract the agressive extremist and stay silent, which reinforces the vicious cycle. The extremist wields their own tools, like influence and peer pressure.
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It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
People are shit and companies are shit all the time and nobody bats an eye. But do volunteer work for your FOSS community, start a project that tries to do things more ethically, just be visibly not shit, and people left and right come out of the woodwork to point out all the ways in which you are not being absolutely flawless and perfect, and all the work that needs doing that you're not yet taking upon you.
The people actually doing the work are also the people who are being asked to do even more, and who are being critised the most. It's a really insiduous pattern and we all need to be better at recognising it and squashing it.
@plexus People who are not in The Arena can STFU!
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It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
People are shit and companies are shit all the time and nobody bats an eye. But do volunteer work for your FOSS community, start a project that tries to do things more ethically, just be visibly not shit, and people left and right come out of the woodwork to point out all the ways in which you are not being absolutely flawless and perfect, and all the work that needs doing that you're not yet taking upon you.
The people actually doing the work are also the people who are being asked to do even more, and who are being critised the most. It's a really insiduous pattern and we all need to be better at recognising it and squashing it.
@plexus I guess we care about people who do good so we tell about were they fall short while people who don't do good we don't care so we ignore them.
not that it's good and we should support good.
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It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
People are shit and companies are shit all the time and nobody bats an eye. But do volunteer work for your FOSS community, start a project that tries to do things more ethically, just be visibly not shit, and people left and right come out of the woodwork to point out all the ways in which you are not being absolutely flawless and perfect, and all the work that needs doing that you're not yet taking upon you.
The people actually doing the work are also the people who are being asked to do even more, and who are being critised the most. It's a really insiduous pattern and we all need to be better at recognising it and squashing it.
@plexus The people who come out of the woodwork to attack you and your efforts are doing it for psychological reasons that have little to do with you.
They need to feel better than someone and they're setting lofty goals. They think you're good enough to give them the boost they need, which is why they're on you instead of someone that does nothing for anyone but themselves. It's why they're picking you apart.
They're psychological vampires (demons) and you look yummy.
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this is huge and kills the left
1. there is someone who does something
2. there are people who think "doing something" means appointing themselves boss and micromanaging person 1. even more bizarre, they imagine themselves as somehow more authentic
they aren't doing anything at all except revealing they have no inclination to actually do something
if you are person #1, ignore person #2
if you are person #2, shut up, roll up your sleeves, and get to actual real work
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Wow this is really resonating with people, eh? Welcome followers
BTW I organise a really cool conference you should come
️ also to be clear, I posted this because I saw this happen (again) to someone else on Fedi, not because it happened to me. I have experienced this, but it doesn't happen too often. Partly because I'm very protective of that sort of thing, and immediately shut it down.
I will do a lot of open source and other volunteer work, it's always freely and joyfully given. But as soon as you come in with expectations or feel entitled to my time it's over in a heartbeat. I have zero fucks to give for that.
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it won't
the right has the reverse situation:
"ignore all flaws, and pour in eternal devotion"
the left meanwhile likes to nitpick itself to death on perfectionism and cynicism
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It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
People are shit and companies are shit all the time and nobody bats an eye. But do volunteer work for your FOSS community, start a project that tries to do things more ethically, just be visibly not shit, and people left and right come out of the woodwork to point out all the ways in which you are not being absolutely flawless and perfect, and all the work that needs doing that you're not yet taking upon you.
The people actually doing the work are also the people who are being asked to do even more, and who are being critised the most. It's a really insiduous pattern and we all need to be better at recognising it and squashing it.
@plexus Do you think this has to do with these people acting as 'consumers' instead of participants?
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@tiefling oh no, definitely not just techies. It's a very human tendency, "oh you think you're morally superior?"
@plexus @tiefling Someone here posted once that, "The world might be burning but at least I'm more moral than that guy."
It blew my mind. I said that needs to be on humanity's gravestone. My expansions sounded high and mighty, so I left them out, but I was actually seeing a very awful part of myself in that statement. Something I loath a great deal. And there it was ... just out and free having a fucking party.
No, really. People thought it was great. It was a Cybertruck driver so... v0v
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It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
People are shit and companies are shit all the time and nobody bats an eye. But do volunteer work for your FOSS community, start a project that tries to do things more ethically, just be visibly not shit, and people left and right come out of the woodwork to point out all the ways in which you are not being absolutely flawless and perfect, and all the work that needs doing that you're not yet taking upon you.
The people actually doing the work are also the people who are being asked to do even more, and who are being critised the most. It's a really insiduous pattern and we all need to be better at recognising it and squashing it.
@plexus@toot.cat
Hear me out: people are allowed to get critical ONLY AFTER sending a donation to the devs
I expect overall feedback to become much more constructive -
@plexus hn "well obv u aren't doing ALL of the things." Yessssh that.
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! There's a Wikipedia page on the Purity Spiral, but its quite meagre in information it provides. The purity spiral benefits opposite extremes, and is a perfect tool for the right as a weapon to sow division and strife. Just throw in the red meat and close the door, then take popcorn and watch the fight ensue..
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Purity_spiral
The one-sided description on this page is quite on the mark though:
> "Purity spiral" is a term for a form of infighting between activists and members of victim groups, in which they seek to outdo each other in zealotry. This self-reinforcing feedback loop is sometimes called "moral outbidding".
Ways to counteract the purity spiral involve the whole group being aware of the anti-pattern and be vocal together to bring back reason and calm. But many people often don't dare to counteract the agressive extremist and stay silent, which reinforces the vicious cycle. The extremist wields their own tools, like influence and peer pressure.
@smallcircles @benroyce @plexus My band once played a very muddy punk picnic at Marx Meadows in Golden Gate Park. A skinhead grabbed the mic while we were in between songs to talk about how anti-racist he was. A second skinhead grabbed the other mic to say that he was even more anti-racist. They really got into it, arguing over who was the least racist, until they were rolling in the mud punching each other and the show could go on.
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@smallcircles @benroyce @plexus My band once played a very muddy punk picnic at Marx Meadows in Golden Gate Park. A skinhead grabbed the mic while we were in between songs to talk about how anti-racist he was. A second skinhead grabbed the other mic to say that he was even more anti-racist. They really got into it, arguing over who was the least racist, until they were rolling in the mud punching each other and the show could go on.
There's a moral in there somewhere, I suppose.@tito_swineflu @benroyce @plexus
Yea, I've witnessed the equivalent of that online too, unfortunately.
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Wow this is really resonating with people, eh? Welcome followers
BTW I organise a really cool conference you should come
️ @plexus What a necessary conference. If it were easier for me to get to Europe I’d be there. We need it here in the USA too…
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It's kind of infuriating how, as soon as you try to do good, you're held to impossible standards.
People are shit and companies are shit all the time and nobody bats an eye. But do volunteer work for your FOSS community, start a project that tries to do things more ethically, just be visibly not shit, and people left and right come out of the woodwork to point out all the ways in which you are not being absolutely flawless and perfect, and all the work that needs doing that you're not yet taking upon you.
The people actually doing the work are also the people who are being asked to do even more, and who are being critised the most. It's a really insiduous pattern and we all need to be better at recognising it and squashing it.
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@tito_swineflu @benroyce @plexus
Yea, I've witnessed the equivalent of that online too, unfortunately.
@tito_swineflu @benroyce @plexus
Oh, btw, I wrote a couple of years ago about the Purity Spiral, on the Humane Tech Community forum, fyi:
https://community.humanetech.com/t/social-media-and-purity-spirals/5263
