Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me.
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Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. His aunt's mother(his grandmother or ammamma) who speaks little English is a religious lady who loves to cook & to feed even more so. I am a fast eater so anytime she saw my plate was empty, she would add another serving with the biggest smile. The best compliment for any cook is a clean plate after a meal as the adage goes so I tried my best to express my gratitude for her hospitality by overeating at every meal. 🤭
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Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. His aunt's mother(his grandmother or ammamma) who speaks little English is a religious lady who loves to cook & to feed even more so. I am a fast eater so anytime she saw my plate was empty, she would add another serving with the biggest smile. The best compliment for any cook is a clean plate after a meal as the adage goes so I tried my best to express my gratitude for her hospitality by overeating at every meal. 🤭
We communicated by laughing together. Ammamma now in mid 80s, wasn't sent to school, got married early, had kids early. But she made sure her kids were well educated & followed their heart in life. Their joy mattered the most to her. The joy in her eyes when she was able to communicate her feelings to me was priceless. Why am I sharing this today? Ammamma is visiting my town, I went to see her in the airport & got her a bouquet of flowers (sunflower because it reminds me of her bright big smile)
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Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. His aunt's mother(his grandmother or ammamma) who speaks little English is a religious lady who loves to cook & to feed even more so. I am a fast eater so anytime she saw my plate was empty, she would add another serving with the biggest smile. The best compliment for any cook is a clean plate after a meal as the adage goes so I tried my best to express my gratitude for her hospitality by overeating at every meal. 🤭
@altlife what a delicious way to show appreciation
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Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. His aunt's mother(his grandmother or ammamma) who speaks little English is a religious lady who loves to cook & to feed even more so. I am a fast eater so anytime she saw my plate was empty, she would add another serving with the biggest smile. The best compliment for any cook is a clean plate after a meal as the adage goes so I tried my best to express my gratitude for her hospitality by overeating at every meal. 🤭
What ammamma told me surprised me. She said with the biggest smile that its the first time anyone has given her flowers. My beautiful ammamma who buys flowers everyday to decorate her temple & as offering to her gods, all these years, she never got flowers for herself. This generation of grandmothers are so selfless that its just not fair. Please buy flowers for your grandmothers & mothers
And for other people's mothers and grandmothers because they deserve to smile the biggest smiles as well. -
@altlife what a delicious way to show appreciation
@alexhaist It absolutely is. Nothing matches the love expressed by people who love to cook for you. Its so gentle and seeped in your well being.
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Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. His aunt's mother(his grandmother or ammamma) who speaks little English is a religious lady who loves to cook & to feed even more so. I am a fast eater so anytime she saw my plate was empty, she would add another serving with the biggest smile. The best compliment for any cook is a clean plate after a meal as the adage goes so I tried my best to express my gratitude for her hospitality by overeating at every meal. 🤭
What an interesting cultural difference! I don't know if it's the way I was raised, or what I saw on TV, but I get worried when someone enjoys my cooking too much. Like, did I make it too tasty, and make them sick? What makes me feel best is the satisfaction after a meal, especially if the diner is eager to volunteer to do the dishes.
And my mother only seems happy when people ask for her cooking. Her compliment comes from people asking her to make a recipe she invented. Eating itself is just mundane. "I cook for two hours, and in 15 minutes it's gone." -
What an interesting cultural difference! I don't know if it's the way I was raised, or what I saw on TV, but I get worried when someone enjoys my cooking too much. Like, did I make it too tasty, and make them sick? What makes me feel best is the satisfaction after a meal, especially if the diner is eager to volunteer to do the dishes.
And my mother only seems happy when people ask for her cooking. Her compliment comes from people asking her to make a recipe she invented. Eating itself is just mundane. "I cook for two hours, and in 15 minutes it's gone."@cy what a lovely worry to have. You cooked so well it made someone sick by overeating. From my experience of overeating such meals, worse that can happen is one feels like taking a very long nap(which I enjoy as well) Thank you for sharing! Lucky people to have someone like you who cooks well around, hope some get to learn recipes from you as well!
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Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. His aunt's mother(his grandmother or ammamma) who speaks little English is a religious lady who loves to cook & to feed even more so. I am a fast eater so anytime she saw my plate was empty, she would add another serving with the biggest smile. The best compliment for any cook is a clean plate after a meal as the adage goes so I tried my best to express my gratitude for her hospitality by overeating at every meal. 🤭
@altlife Fast eating has earned me a new nick at office - Bakasur. Buhahaha! -
@altlife Fast eating has earned me a new nick at office - Bakasur. Buhahaha!
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Storytime: Last year during my visit to Hyderabad, my friend's family hosted me. His aunt's mother(his grandmother or ammamma) who speaks little English is a religious lady who loves to cook & to feed even more so. I am a fast eater so anytime she saw my plate was empty, she would add another serving with the biggest smile. The best compliment for any cook is a clean plate after a meal as the adage goes so I tried my best to express my gratitude for her hospitality by overeating at every meal. 🤭
Meet my beautiful ammamma, we went for her eye checkup. Got a plenty of time to catchup. She told me Thatha(her husband) used to leave for work at 730 am & return at 11 pm. She took care of her 2 kids, their education & well being, household chores & paying bills, alone all those years. She doesn't consider that as work. Though it consumed her life. In her mind, her contribution to the family was significantly less because she wasn’t the one earning the money for family. Patriarchy truly sucks.
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Meet my beautiful ammamma, we went for her eye checkup. Got a plenty of time to catchup. She told me Thatha(her husband) used to leave for work at 730 am & return at 11 pm. She took care of her 2 kids, their education & well being, household chores & paying bills, alone all those years. She doesn't consider that as work. Though it consumed her life. In her mind, her contribution to the family was significantly less because she wasn’t the one earning the money for family. Patriarchy truly sucks.
Patriarchy truly sucks because it taught generations of women to measure their worth by how little they needed & how much they could give, while teaching them that the work that consumed their lives was simply their duty, not work.
The thing about unpaid care work is that it is so constant, so woven into life, that the person doing it can eventually stop seeing it as labour at all.
That is what patriarchy does. It doesn’t just undervalue women’s work. it teaches women to undervalue it themselves -
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