The 7 golden rules of not being a dick on the internet
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2. No snark-and-lock. Don't fire off a smug "cutting" reply and then limit who can respond. If you can dish it, you can take it; turning off replies after a dunk is the social media version of ringing a doorbell and running. Don't be a fucking child.
3. Read the kind version. Most takes that look outrageous are clumsy phrasing or missing context, so when something reads badly, go back and find the more generous interpretation before you reply.
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4. Screenshot in good faith. When you repost someone to criticise them, show enough of the thread that people can see what they actually meant, because cropping out the context to make someone look worse is lying with extra steps.
5. Don't subtweet, say it. Vague callout posts about "some people" are passive-aggressive theatre; either name the issue and talk to the person or let it go.
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3. Read the kind version. Most takes that look outrageous are clumsy phrasing or missing context, so when something reads badly, go back and find the more generous interpretation before you reply.
4. Screenshot in good faith. When you repost someone to criticise them, show enough of the thread that people can see what they actually meant, because cropping out the context to make someone look worse is lying with extra steps.
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5. Don't subtweet, say it. Vague callout posts about "some people" are passive-aggressive theatre; either name the issue and talk to the person or let it go.
6. Correct, don't humiliate. When someone's wrong, you want the truth out there, so share the correction and skip the victory lap that only shames them.
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6. Correct, don't humiliate. When someone's wrong, you want the truth out there, so share the correction and skip the victory lap that only shames them.
7. Log off before you escalate. When a thread gets your heart racing, close the app, because you'll type something worse while you're angry and the post will keep until tomorrow if it's worth making in the first place.
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The 7 golden rules of not being a dick on the internet
1. No quote dunking. If you disagree with someone, reply to them directly. Broadcasting their post to your audience with a snide caption turns a disagreement into a pile-on. Which is the entire point, I know. But we're better than that, right?
...right?
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The 7 golden rules of not being a dick on the internet
1. No quote dunking. If you disagree with someone, reply to them directly. Broadcasting their post to your audience with a snide caption turns a disagreement into a pile-on. Which is the entire point, I know. But we're better than that, right?
...right?
All of this 🧡
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The 7 golden rules of not being a dick on the internet
1. No quote dunking. If you disagree with someone, reply to them directly. Broadcasting their post to your audience with a snide caption turns a disagreement into a pile-on. Which is the entire point, I know. But we're better than that, right?
...right?
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The 7 golden rules of not being a dick on the internet
1. No quote dunking. If you disagree with someone, reply to them directly. Broadcasting their post to your audience with a snide caption turns a disagreement into a pile-on. Which is the entire point, I know. But we're better than that, right?
...right?
@Daojoan the fact that the only time I see anything close to that kind of behaviour is when there's a Xitter or Bluesky exodus (or the forkiverse...) is why I love the fediverse.
Meanwhile every other site's primary content is screenshots where someone commented on ragebait, posted a 'clapback', then immediately screenshot it and cross posted it as 'x DESTROYED/RIPPED'. To be recycled the next day by content farm articles telling people what they want to here. The internet human centipede.
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The 7 golden rules of not being a dick on the internet
1. No quote dunking. If you disagree with someone, reply to them directly. Broadcasting their post to your audience with a snide caption turns a disagreement into a pile-on. Which is the entire point, I know. But we're better than that, right?
...right?
@Daojoan Nice list. I start with no3 as often as I can.
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7. Log off before you escalate. When a thread gets your heart racing, close the app, because you'll type something worse while you're angry and the post will keep until tomorrow if it's worth making in the first place.
@Daojoan Indeed, thank you! Interestingly, all of this also applies offline, in real life.
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7. Log off before you escalate. When a thread gets your heart racing, close the app, because you'll type something worse while you're angry and the post will keep until tomorrow if it's worth making in the first place.
@Daojoan If more people practiced number 7 (myself included, lolsob) we'd all be better off.
Speed is often not our friend.
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The 7 golden rules of not being a dick on the internet
1. No quote dunking. If you disagree with someone, reply to them directly. Broadcasting their post to your audience with a snide caption turns a disagreement into a pile-on. Which is the entire point, I know. But we're better than that, right?
...right?
@Daojoan
The are rules? I think you are going to learn something the hard way honey, though I agree with your basic ethics.
The are no rules that apply 100% of the time, including this one ! And that is a fact sweetheart.
The “Rational Animal” is not only a myth but a lie.
Logic a tool of Grammar, not a magic wand, and the best way of coming to the wrong answer convinced its correct.
Humiliation is entirely subjective response in the humiliated beyond my control, though I do not set out to humiliate, so some folks will just make their minds to be humiliated whether I intend to or not. -
The 7 golden rules of not being a dick on the internet
1. No quote dunking. If you disagree with someone, reply to them directly. Broadcasting their post to your audience with a snide caption turns a disagreement into a pile-on. Which is the entire point, I know. But we're better than that, right?
...right?
@Daojoan Well, you got that right. Except for that last part maybe! Be mindful though that some of that dunking may actually be synthetic agent clusters. See my most recent pinned post on the Ru disinformation engine's newest hotness. They're weaponized LLM's & human indistinguishable. Organized along loose packs that riff off each other., I speculate that if they're not doing something similar already, they will be soon. It's an obvious next step to spread their reach more rapidly.
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@Daojoan
The are rules? I think you are going to learn something the hard way honey, though I agree with your basic ethics.
The are no rules that apply 100% of the time, including this one ! And that is a fact sweetheart.
The “Rational Animal” is not only a myth but a lie.
Logic a tool of Grammar, not a magic wand, and the best way of coming to the wrong answer convinced its correct.
Humiliation is entirely subjective response in the humiliated beyond my control, though I do not set out to humiliate, so some folks will just make their minds to be humiliated whether I intend to or not.@Phalanxwarfare @Daojoan I'm bristling over here with the use of "honey" and "sweetheart," which can be interpreted as condescending rather than emphatic. Perhaps this is not your intent. But, you wouldn't say either of those words to a man, so it stands out.
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@Phalanxwarfare @Daojoan I'm bristling over here with the use of "honey" and "sweetheart," which can be interpreted as condescending rather than emphatic. Perhaps this is not your intent. But, you wouldn't say either of those words to a man, so it stands out.
@kimlockhartga @Daojoan
Bad luck honey -
@Phalanxwarfare @Daojoan I'm bristling over here with the use of "honey" and "sweetheart," which can be interpreted as condescending rather than emphatic. Perhaps this is not your intent. But, you wouldn't say either of those words to a man, so it stands out.
@kimlockhartga @Daojoan
Your emotional reactions to words is not my concern. You look after your mouth, I’ll look after mine. -
@Phalanxwarfare @Daojoan I'm bristling over here with the use of "honey" and "sweetheart," which can be interpreted as condescending rather than emphatic. Perhaps this is not your intent. But, you wouldn't say either of those words to a man, so it stands out.
@kimlockhartga @Daojoan Bad luck.
I call men sweethearts if they are.
Your emotional reactions to words are your domain not mine. You will not edit me in that regard. -
@Phalanxwarfare @Daojoan I'm bristling over here with the use of "honey" and "sweetheart," which can be interpreted as condescending rather than emphatic. Perhaps this is not your intent. But, you wouldn't say either of those words to a man, so it stands out.
@kimlockhartga @Daojoan
Bristle your heart out. Hope it works out for ya -
7. Log off before you escalate. When a thread gets your heart racing, close the app, because you'll type something worse while you're angry and the post will keep until tomorrow if it's worth making in the first place.
as someone who frequently engages with trolls because it's so stupid it's funny (not recommended):
don't feel threatened
these are idiots
they can't bother you if you don't let them in
you engage in good faith. good
but when someone reply guys with bad faith:
code switch
laugh at them
you've removed all of their power
the realm of the troll is simple: entertainment over truth
flip the script and let them entertain *you* rather than they entertaining themselves at your expense
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