I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents.
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@skyfaller @Lyle @coreysnipes @adriano My kids are adults now, but I seem to recall that no routine ever lasted when they were this young — they’re growing too fast and you just have to keep rolling with the changes. You aren’t doing anything wrong, it’s just early childhood development is intense stuff.
Horrible advice for summer, but have you tried baby-wearing? My dh used to use The Step
️ (you are probably too young to remember) and sing Tom Bombadil songs while wearing the babies.@ClimateJenny @Lyle @coreysnipes @adriano Yeah I need to do more baby wearing, it's fine in air conditioning of course, and we just got a baby backpack for hiking in nicer weather.
Problems with baby wearing:
* I'm too slow at getting her in and out of carriers and need help from Mom, so I need more practice
* Can't feed her or take her to the bathroom
* Can't drink hot tea, which is my standard drink even in summerBut all of this would be ok if I got faster
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@ClimateJenny @Lyle @coreysnipes @adriano Yeah I need to do more baby wearing, it's fine in air conditioning of course, and we just got a baby backpack for hiking in nicer weather.
Problems with baby wearing:
* I'm too slow at getting her in and out of carriers and need help from Mom, so I need more practice
* Can't feed her or take her to the bathroom
* Can't drink hot tea, which is my standard drink even in summerBut all of this would be ok if I got faster
@skyfaller @Lyle @coreysnipes @adriano Back in the day I used a cloth sling for daily wear. A cloth sling is a lot simpler to work with, although having another human being strapped to your chest does get hot.
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@skyfaller @Lyle @coreysnipes @adriano Back in the day I used a cloth sling for daily wear. A cloth sling is a lot simpler to work with, although having another human being strapped to your chest does get hot.
@ClimateJenny @Lyle @coreysnipes @adriano Yeah a woven wrap is what I use indoors, this backpack would be ludicrously bulky in our little house
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@ClimateJenny @Lyle @coreysnipes @adriano Yeah a woven wrap is what I use indoors, this backpack would be ludicrously bulky in our little house
@skyfaller @ClimateJenny @Lyle @coreysnipes with backpacks you also have to be careful with their necks.
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I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller You've described me
My kids are in elementary school. We're a covid-conscious household still masking when away from home. Kid1 goes to school by bike in the not-snowy months (riding in the back of Spouse's cargo bike or, increasingly, on their own bike). Kid2 is autistic and disabled, so they're still getting to some milestones typical of much younger kids. I'm also a college chemistry professor who actively discourages AI use. My posts may include any of that plus gardening
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I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller I tick all the boxes except... I don't think I talk much about it around here except casually and, being my account multilingual, very probably in Spanish
my kid is 3.5 y.o. and we race each other on the bicycle to the kindergarten everyday -
I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller Mine are 8 and 13, but I don't post very much. We do mostly travel by bicycle though, I haven't owned a car since 2005.
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@coreysnipes @adriano @Lyle Well right now baby won't sleep unless Mom is feeding her to sleep, baby won't let me help at all. Very inconvenient since I'm the housedad and I was previously taking care of her nap times all day.
Being a full-time caregiver is also a personal challenge.
@skyfaller @coreysnipes @adriano @Lyle it helped me to acknowledge most of us are raising kids in an environment completely different than what we were evolved for, and it puts an insane amount of pressure on modern parents. Some studies found that an average baby was probably held by over a dozen people throughout the day when we were still tribal. Most days it's 2 now, if you're lucky. So cut yourself some slack, you're literally doing the work of an entire village!
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I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller my kids are a little older, one entering the 1st grade already! But I always joke that around 12 months or so is the trap age where the kids get just easy enough to handle to trick you into thinking another wouldn't be so bad after all
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I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller I'm past newborn, but mine are still young! Unfortunately I'm pretty quiet over here.
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@coreysnipes @adriano @Lyle Well right now baby won't sleep unless Mom is feeding her to sleep, baby won't let me help at all. Very inconvenient since I'm the housedad and I was previously taking care of her nap times all day.
Being a full-time caregiver is also a personal challenge.
@skyfaller @coreysnipes @adriano @Lyle well both my children are teenagers now, but both had those phases were they only wanted one parent, but they also had phases were they only wanted the other parent.
I know one always questions oneself in the phase one is not wanted, but rest assured, it will pass.
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I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller got a 2 year old and STILL reeling whom the fact I'm a dad now, surreal.. And yes, constantly concerned about the state of the world by child's gonna grow up in, even at the most basic local level, from entertainment to education to his immediate circle of aquantances or role models =/
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I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller you should definitely connect with @juliette, @Pepijn and their hobbit
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I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller
Nelson, I am 84 so I can't give you everyday advice. But, I have one piece of advice that I personally did and never regretted. When my son was an early teen, I told him that I would not judge if he ever had trouble and needed me. One night, he called from a party for me to get him. He is now in his 50s. We get on well together.
Short of this. Be there for your child - no judgment. -
I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller There is @SaySimonSay who is mostly posting in German but has some English posts. I think the kid is a toddler.
Same goes for @quidcumque (toddler and older kids) and
@fledermama has a new baby and two older kids. -
I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller I wish I could help, but you're 20 years too late.
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I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller I'm here!
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Almost subscribe to all you ask for. Although my baby is 10 months old. -
@coreysnipes @adriano @Lyle Well right now baby won't sleep unless Mom is feeding her to sleep, baby won't let me help at all. Very inconvenient since I'm the housedad and I was previously taking care of her nap times all day.
Being a full-time caregiver is also a personal challenge.
@skyfaller @coreysnipes @adriano @Lyle I have a 4-mo-old baby, but she’s our second, the elder is 4yo. 9 months is about the time we began doing the « 5-10-15 », I believe. You do the sleep routine, then let baby in their crib. If baby cries for you to come back, you first go immediately, comfort and put her back to sleep. Second time, you do the same but let her cry 5mn before coming back. Third time, it’s 10 mn. I don’t think we ever got to 15. This way, baby knows you’re there for them, but they also learn that they have to sleep now.
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@Lyle @coreysnipes @adriano Yeah baby has had very little formula, because Mom also works from home we have been able to directly breast feed her mostly recently. Pumping has been necessary for business trips, but pumping is really a less efficient use of our time once you consider cleaning the pump etc., so Mom hasn't pumped much lately either.
I should try bottle feeding her to sleep now. I had routines that worked for getting baby to sleep but they stopped working and I should be flexible.
you are doing great: you care, you try, you support your spouse.
It is hard. It can be very lonely. Nothing prepares you for how exhausting and disorienting it is.
Look at the response you got, though! We see you. We understand. You've got this. We believe in you. Give baby a hug (if she'll let you). -
I'm a parent with a 9-month old baby looking to chat with other parents. Can you recommend fedi accounts of parents with younger children who talk about parenting? (There may be many silent parents on here.)
Bonus points if they ride bikes / avoid cars, are passionate about climate justice, are COVID conscious / interested in public health, or concerned about LLMs & surveillance capitalism (all relatively common on fedi no doubt, despite conditions in the outside world).
@skyfaller
Hi! @PurpleStephyr and I are parents to a slightly older kid (4). Between the two of us we check all the listed boxes lol
