A lawmaker in Thailand is proposing that women be allowed to have up to four husbands.
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@skinnylatte Oh god NO!
@skinnylatte Would they all be in the same home? Would they be my support staff? Ha!
Would I have to sleep with all of them? Would they do the dishes? Would I have to constantly pop out babies?
Would I be able to have my own home that they can't enter unless I invite them? And could I go on vacation, by myself, whenever I wanted to?
Would they clean toilets? Or cook dinner? Or change diapers?
Do these men also have other wives? Do I have to get along with them?
Who is cooking and cleaning?
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@skinnylatte Would they all be in the same home? Would they be my support staff? Ha!
Would I have to sleep with all of them? Would they do the dishes? Would I have to constantly pop out babies?
Would I be able to have my own home that they can't enter unless I invite them? And could I go on vacation, by myself, whenever I wanted to?
Would they clean toilets? Or cook dinner? Or change diapers?
Do these men also have other wives? Do I have to get along with them?
Who is cooking and cleaning?
@skinnylatte Who is in control of my finances? Who is in charge? Who makes decisions that affect all?
Who has custody of the kids?
Ugh!!! It all seems like such a nightmare.
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@skinnylatte I know that polyandry used to be a thing in Tibet, while polygyny used to be a thing among Mormons (and others). My guess is that these things were more about social/economic/religious reasons than anything remotely to do with agency.
On the face of it, it looks like it might be an equality thing, but then I see the pic of the guy who's proposing it. Maybe he's just doing it to stir up anti-Muslim sentiment? I don't really know. Anything.
(and I also think that "marriage isn't a word; it's a sentence")
@skinnylatte ... on a tangential note... matchmaking. It still goes on the world over, doesn't it? Here's one near me...
https://www.rte.ie/news/2026/0723/1584819-lisdoonvarna-closing-time/
(who knows, though... it might still be preferable to for-profit internet dating sites)
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@skinnylatte as it stands now, Thai men can have four wives. And gay marriage is finally legal. So could this usher in the Thai polycule?
@skinnylatte also, women hold the purse and the land rights in Thai homes
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A lawmaker in Thailand is proposing that women be allowed to have up to four husbands.
I don’t think I know any straight women who want more than one
@skinnylatte I’m going to go out on a limb and say there aren’t many gay women who want more than one husband, either.
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@skinnylatte@hachyderm.io why???
what could possibly be the reasoning for this@piku @skinnylatte Cheap publicity?
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A lawmaker in Thailand is proposing that women be allowed to have up to four husbands.
I don’t think I know any straight women who want more than one
@skinnylatte Well, it depends on the situation. I am happy with one husband, however, if it was okay (both societally and with my husband) to have at least one more husband, I would do it ON CONDITION if that person was also very good with all of us and participated with daily tasks. As I have fertility issues, I am not worried about “too many children” problems
. Again, it’s all very situational and conditional, not just “sure, 3 more would be great!”
Regarding some men, yeah no thanks -
@skinnylatte I’m going to go out on a limb and say there aren’t many gay women who want more than one husband, either.
@Twotired hehehe or more than zero husbands
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@skinnylatte Well, it depends on the situation. I am happy with one husband, however, if it was okay (both societally and with my husband) to have at least one more husband, I would do it ON CONDITION if that person was also very good with all of us and participated with daily tasks. As I have fertility issues, I am not worried about “too many children” problems
. Again, it’s all very situational and conditional, not just “sure, 3 more would be great!”
Regarding some men, yeah no thanks@skinnylatte However, there is something to be said about having more than one partner. Because one person cannot and should not be “everything you’ll ever need” (sounds like a Swiss Army knife
). My husband has his strong set of qualities that are very important to me in a partner. However, he is lacking in some aspects (like taking long walks and just talking (he talks EVEN LESS then any man I’ve ever known )) I wouldn’t trade him for anyone in the world. It would be nice to have one more -
One is accustomed to lawmakers being ignorant of biology and weak on practicalities but that seems — oh, maybe incomes?
In China, decades of femicide and gendered abortion, at the demand of the IMF & Club of Rome, has resulted in large numbers of men without any possibility of finding a spouse or having children.
Xi is happy with the potential for an instant army
https://foreignpolicy.com/2025/12/12/china-gender-dating-demographic-population-documentary/https://www.britannica.com/topic/one-child-policy/Consequences-of-Chinas-one-child-policy
https://www.hrw.org/news/2019/10/31/chinas-bride-trafficking-problem
However, it's resulted in the traffic of women from neighboring countries
https://www.imf.org/en/countries/chnhttps://kingcenter.stanford.edu/publications/issue-brief-conflicted-legacy-chinas-population-policy
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A lawmaker in Thailand is proposing that women be allowed to have up to four husbands.
I don’t think I know any straight women who want more than one
In the US anyway, the polyamory community tends to be very women-led, and somewhat hetero. Although there's a lot of bi and pan, and there are certainly gay and lesbian polycules
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Gender parity, as Muslim men are allowed to marry up to four women in some countries
@csolisr@hub.azkware.net iirc thailand is majority buddhist and doesn't allow such?
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@csolisr@hub.azkware.net iirc thailand is majority buddhist and doesn't allow such?
Thai law, which states, "A man or a woman cannot marry each other while one of them has a spouse."[5]
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A lawmaker in Thailand is proposing that women be allowed to have up to four husbands.
I don’t think I know any straight women who want more than one
Better: having four cats, or four "roommates" with cats.
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In the US anyway, the polyamory community tends to be very women-led, and somewhat hetero. Although there's a lot of bi and pan, and there are certainly gay and lesbian polycules
@NilaJones @skinnylatte As someone close to the ace end of the spectrum, I want to find a lavender polycule.
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In China, decades of femicide and gendered abortion, at the demand of the IMF & Club of Rome, has resulted in large numbers of men without any possibility of finding a spouse or having children.
Xi is happy with the potential for an instant army
https://foreignpolicy.com/2025/12/12/china-gender-dating-demographic-population-documentary/https://www.britannica.com/topic/one-child-policy/Consequences-of-Chinas-one-child-policy
https://www.hrw.org/news/2019/10/31/chinas-bride-trafficking-problem
However, it's resulted in the traffic of women from neighboring countries
https://www.imf.org/en/countries/chnhttps://kingcenter.stanford.edu/publications/issue-brief-conflicted-legacy-chinas-population-policy
Ah. Huh. Smurf marriages would be better.
I know there’s a big diagrammatic assumption that “excess” men make soldiers. Not so clear to me that history tells us which way the army will face.
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Thai law, which states, "A man or a woman cannot marry each other while one of them has a spouse."[5]
wikipediaThat makes this law project even more bizarre, yeah. The four wives rule is applied outside of Thailand - the gender parity measure of four husbands would be merely virtue signaling in a Buddhist-majority country -
@skinnylatte@hachyderm.io why???
what could possibly be the reasoning for this@piku @skinnylatte
No idea what the thinking is in Thailand, but in some cultures, such as northern India and Nepal, polyandry is a means to keep property intact within a family. No breaking up farms and assets to divide them between multiple descendants, thus avoiding shrinking resources from one generation to the next. Lineage is matrilineal.I hear the patriarchy gasp while clutching its man-pearls.
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A lawmaker in Thailand is proposing that women be allowed to have up to four husbands.
I don’t think I know any straight women who want more than one
@skinnylatte maybe if you have 4 they will keep each other busy doing boys night and you get some time and space to yourself
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@piku @skinnylatte
No idea what the thinking is in Thailand, but in some cultures, such as northern India and Nepal, polyandry is a means to keep property intact within a family. No breaking up farms and assets to divide them between multiple descendants, thus avoiding shrinking resources from one generation to the next. Lineage is matrilineal.I hear the patriarchy gasp while clutching its man-pearls.
@Cotopaxi @piku @skinnylatte pearls: the only jewels with a biological origin
