As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth.
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As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid
Another example of Qasim's pathetic engagement farming. The capitalist system, which he will never address, is inherently sexist and the hierarchy requires someone to be picked on who's considered lower on the pecking order. Women and minorities have conveniently always been in this catagory.
The USSR-Communist Russia-which everyone on mastodon vilifies with ignorant Russophobia, always considered women as equals and important. That's why the US goal has been to destroy Russia. -
@QasimRashid
Another example of Qasim's pathetic engagement farming. The capitalist system, which he will never address, is inherently sexist and the hierarchy requires someone to be picked on who's considered lower on the pecking order. Women and minorities have conveniently always been in this catagory.
The USSR-Communist Russia-which everyone on mastodon vilifies with ignorant Russophobia, always considered women as equals and important. That's why the US goal has been to destroy Russia. -
@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe?@johnrohde @QasimRashid
Same things you do any time you learn about human horribleness:
• sit with it for a while, and take time to grieve both the victims and your own lost innocence as needed
• consult family and close friends about it, to see if/how you can improve your own behaviors
• remain aware of it, and keep it in mind when interacting with others
• leverage your own privileges to intervene if/when you see it happening in the real world -
As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid Well Some Men Anyway
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As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid The picture is so dire.
I don’t know what to do, except raising my sons to respect everyone equally, and raising my daughters to be comfortable with enforcing their limits.
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@QasimRashid Well Some Men Anyway
@billjryan @QasimRashid all men benefit from male supremacy, and one of male supremacy's main enforcement arms is violence against women. so, yes, all men.
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@YKantRachelRead@treehouse.systems Tankies go burrrr…
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As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid I'm with you. What do we need to do?
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@billjryan @QasimRashid all men benefit from male supremacy, and one of male supremacy's main enforcement arms is violence against women. so, yes, all men.
@YKantRachelRead @QasimRashid Sorry What you Suffered, But You Only Met The Wrong Men
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As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid The best thing a woman can do if she wants to live a long and healthy life is to stay single. We can't choose to have male relatives or not, but we *can* choose to have a partner - or not.
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@YKantRachelRead@treehouse.systems Tankies go burrrr…
@steff seriously, that's like, not even historically accurate. women in the USSR were nominally equal to men under the law, but in practice they were expected to work full-time jobs in addition to the uncompensated "women's work" of maintaining a household and raising children.
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@YKantRachelRead @QasimRashid Sorry What you Suffered, But You Only Met The Wrong Men
@billjryan @QasimRashid every man I meet who responds to me like you just did reinforces the fact that, no, I haven't met The Wrong Men, I've just met Men
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@steff seriously, that's like, not even historically accurate. women in the USSR were nominally equal to men under the law, but in practice they were expected to work full-time jobs in addition to the uncompensated "women's work" of maintaining a household and raising children.
@YKantRachelRead@treehouse.systems Yeah… the vast majority of Marxists and Leftists don’t consider domestic labor to be of near value with that performed by the glorious industrial proletariat.
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@YKantRachelRead@treehouse.systems Yeah… the vast majority of Marxists and Leftists don’t consider domestic labor to be of near value with that performed by the glorious industrial proletariat.
@steff @YKantRachelRead also the USSR very much believed in hierarchy. So much that they murdered Anarchists for not believing in hierarchy!!! -
As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid Men aren't safe around men either. You know that, right?
Also, men are more likely to die preventable violent deaths, be seriously injured by random violence, and die from preventable diseases.
Statistically men are in more danger than women, every day, all the time, from everything and you only need to look into an OAP home to see who is outliving whom.
In summary, feeling safe and being safe are not the same thing. Safety is not and can not be guaranteed for anyone, ever.
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@YKantRachelRead @johnrohde @QasimRashid thank you
️ The whole “Ermahgawd so you’re saying men can’t speak to women or we are creeps?!?” is SO TIRESOME. I mean, yeah, I guess if a dude can’t talk to women without being a creep then he shouldn’t talk to women anymore.
But don’t they realize they’re telling on themselves? Imagine if they spent even half as much time talking to their creepy friends about why it’s bad to be creepy?
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As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
Bears
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@QasimRashid I'm glad you posted this and I'm also pissed that women have been saying this all along and no one listens to us
Most women learn the hard truth early on, that men can't be trusted not entirely. If you're not a man or perceived as a man, you're in danger. Even men in your family are not safe
Anyone reading this that replies with a variation of 'not all men' will be blocked with no reply. Instead of whining maybe go do something useful like tell your man buddies to stop harming women@HappyCrow13 @QasimRashid a lot of people don’t care until it happens to them.
When a man in my friend group climbed into my bed and tried something while I was sleeping after I let him crash on my couch so he didn’t get a DUI trying to get home, a whole bunch of people in my friend group were like “well he didn’t do anything to ME” to justify continuing to be friends with that man without calling me a liar.
Needless to say I stopped being friends with those people.
Men need to hold their friends to better standards if they don’t want to get grouped in with their bad behavior. “He hasn’t done anything to me so he’s cool” is enabling behavior.
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@QasimRashid The best thing a woman can do if she wants to live a long and healthy life is to stay single. We can't choose to have male relatives or not, but we *can* choose to have a partner - or not.
@VerenaRupp @QasimRashid women in relationships with men in deep blue states in the US live longer on average than single women in deep red states. Best move to extend lifespan is to get away from racist, sexist gun nuts and their Vagina Policing and other $hitty health care.
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@billjryan @QasimRashid every man I meet who responds to me like you just did reinforces the fact that, no, I haven't met The Wrong Men, I've just met Men
@YKantRachelRead @billjryan @QasimRashid it’s always amazing when victim blamers think they’re one of the good ones.
I am 53 years old and I have lived in 6 different states in this country. I have worked in banks, law offices, doctor’s offices, bars, and restaurants. If I am only meeting the wrong men I guess that’s a problem with America because I have been all over the place and these are the people I meet.
Edited to add that I forgot the VW service center, the BMW parts store, the IBM hot desk admin, and real estate offices.
