@Colman @unchartedworlds @kanongil @neil If anything, I find these results scary for what they tell us. We still do not have a good example to give men (and women) of what consent aware flirting is! There is a growing body of writing and experience out there, and it is good. But we are really far from a cultural result large enough for consent aware people to actually have a comparable sex life.

Which means the experience for women will not change significantly, as the one hitting on them and flirting will nearly always be the coercives one. Ofc they need to be cautious. But also, even if a growing (or majority) of men were consent aware, the women would still mostly encounter one that do not respect consent. Just teaching consent is not enough.

@Colman @unchartedworlds @kanongil @neil And yes, we should do better, but also... I do not go in the place these encounters happen the most anymore. It is not my scene, never has been. And same for most men I know that understand consent. They stop going in the places in which this kind of behavior happens the most.

I see it also with my SO. If I am not far from them, there is none of that behavior. The moment she steps out by herself to go for groceries or smoke, she gets hit upon. A lot.

It is hard for me to go stop behavior that do not happen when I am around. (I do still enforce them when they happen, but that is far far far less than what happens if I am not there. I know, she tells me)

@Colman @unchartedworlds @kanongil @neil

both, and on that aspect, I would have been excluded easily for long tract of time in my life. Especially with the known figures for that age band rn. Sex encounter for young people has been dropping down for years now, mostly due to the reduction in unwanted sex. Which is also dropping (correlated with the drop in use of alcohol).

If you mostly take no for an answer and find consent sexy, at least in my circles and age band (I still am in that band) you do not get a lot of sexual encounters. I am not surprised that people that got sexual encounter enough to register in this are the one using this kind of coercive tactics.

@kornel it always was. I really need to publish this blogpost

@linuxiac hmm actually, as a french, I am not sure this say that all ministers will move to Linux. It can be interpreted as only saying that the DINUM own workstations will move to Linux. This is a far smaller park, mostly of people already working on the IT stuff itself