"If" -> this isn't realtime, I'm having to assume your reaction; this is just a conditional if/then/else.
"You seem to" -> I am not going to tell you what you're thinking, only how it came across to me, as information.
I am sorry that I came across as tone policing.
It was not intended. That does not change the first sentence. It does signal that it was not malicious.
I will own the effect, absolutely. I'm not going to say that it was intentional when it was not.