So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me.
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So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.
We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.
“Oh man, yeah please.”
My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.
America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.
@SecureOwl I offer everyone who comes to my house a drink, especially when it's hot outside. It's just a nice thing to do.
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So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.
We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.
“Oh man, yeah please.”
My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.
America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.
@SecureOwl hot weather, i always offer tradies and delivery people water - they almost always tell me they are good

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I wonder if this is a regionalism, because as a born-and-raised American from what constitutes (just barely) the South, not offering at least a glass of water is borderline offensive.
@DaveMWilburn Adding my piece, I grew up in Kentucky and it was common to offer at least water if not coffee or coke.
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@grumpydad apparently not - my wife was always told that people didnt want to potentially have to pee in a customers house lol
@SecureOwl @grumpydad that is so recognizable, and at the same time such an indictment of western values, it hurts even thinking about...
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So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.
We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.
“Oh man, yeah please.”
My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.
America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.
@SecureOwl I was taught to do this, my husband's family on the opposite side of the US from where I grew up does this, and the only places I've seen in the country where it's not the norm is in an extremely bigoted part of the Deep South where workers have to guesstimate who'll be safe entering who's property and how dangerous it to talk to any member of the household.
I wonder if there are other places in the country where not offering something to drink is basic etiquette.
The offer is usually water or soda pop, whichever the source is for the family (tap, fridge, bottled). In the southern half of the country, offering tea unless you're actively drinking or blending can be kind of rude, for a variety of reasons, but I'm sure a British accent would flip that.
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So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.
We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.
“Oh man, yeah please.”
My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.
America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.
@SecureOwl
Born in Seattle and raised in Southern California. Offer drinks to workers (most recent was a guy fixing our range). I have several friends in the Bay Area that leave bottled water and snacks for Amazon/FedEx/UPS delivery drivers.
My dad would pick up day laborers at Home Depot when I was a kid for doing yard work (5 acres). My mom would make them lunch and always offered something to drink. -
So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.
We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.
“Oh man, yeah please.”
My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.
America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.
@SecureOwl@infosec.exchange This is normal outside of Britain too, I've even seen the practice outside of Europe. Its just the USA where people are trained from birth to be egocentric, and thus never offer anything for free to a "stranger". -
So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.
We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.
“Oh man, yeah please.”
My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.
America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.
@SecureOwl
Here in Canada, I have tried several times to offer contractors something to drink, a soft drink, water, anything... They always decline embarrassedly... Weird... -
I wonder if this is a regionalism, because as a born-and-raised American from what constitutes (just barely) the South, not offering at least a glass of water is borderline offensive.
@DaveMWilburn @SecureOwl agreed. Regional. By the time you get to the FL line, in Georgia we brought out silver trays of bourbon at 4:00 p.m. I do not recommend this at all for getting your house fixed but it is a very good time!
Southerners are impeccably hospitable, right up to the moment they find out you're in any way different from them.
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So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.
We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.
“Oh man, yeah please.”
My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.
America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.
@SecureOwl If you are English, why do you think "British" is a noun, when it is an adjective?
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So because I am a British what moved to America, some British traits persist in me. For example, if we have a contractor round for any reason, I’m gonna offer them a drink - to include a cup of tea.
We had a guy come over to look at our dryer yesterday because it recently exploded. The look on his face when I offered him a drink. It was like I’d just offered to pay off his mortgage.
“Oh man, yeah please.”
My wife (American), thinks it’s such a strange thing I do.
America, we must normalize this practice. Become responsible for hydrating anyone who sets foot in your home.
@SecureOwl wtf?
America - Don't offer a cup of tea, that's weird.
Also America - let's put a tea break in football so we can show ads.
What a strange country. -
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