Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do".
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@sjpurrs good for you! It's really important that men get to use the full complement of emotions. Men do not have different emotions than women. Men have been oppressed by the toxic masculinity thing just as much as women
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@megatronicthronbanks @sjpurrs
That might be your experience but mine is the opposite 
I've only heard women say "I want and need men to express their feelings, including crying. "@TrueNorthSpice @sjpurrs Good. I guess?
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@TrueNorthSpice @sjpurrs Good. I guess?
@megatronicthronbanks @sjpurrs
I believe it is. .. but I'm a woman so of course I am biased.
btw... being raised to believe crying is shameful is not experienced by only men.
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
@sjpurrs men do cry. I have seen proof of it when we had to put 2 dogs to sleep in the years that I have been married to my husband.
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@sjpurrs We need to start giving "men don't cry" the same reaction as "women don't fart".
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@sjpurrs men do cry. I have seen proof of it when we had to put 2 dogs to sleep in the years that I have been married to my husband.
@mooseandriosmom Yes, that would definitely do it. Pet loss is very hard to accept for all of us. I still talk to my cat that died over 3 years ago. She was the glue in our family and was just adored. I tearing up just writing this.
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@sjpurrs Real strength isn’t hiding your emotions; it’s having the courage to own them.
️@noelnatasha That is such an accurate assessment. Our emotions are there for a reason.
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@mooseandriosmom Yes, that would definitely do it. Pet loss is very hard to accept for all of us. I still talk to my cat that died over 3 years ago. She was the glue in our family and was just adored. I tearing up just writing this.
@sjpurrs I'm so sorry for the loss of your kitty. I still talk to Moose and sometimes Sammie. Moose has been gone almost 2 years and Sammie 11 years.
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@sjpurrs I'm so sorry for the loss of your kitty. I still talk to Moose and sometimes Sammie. Moose has been gone almost 2 years and Sammie 11 years.
@mooseandriosmom Thanks. It was a long time ago so I shouldn't be so mushy about it but it's nice to know I'm not alone in my attachment to pets. Moose and Sammie must have been very special.
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@mooseandriosmom Thanks. It was a long time ago so I shouldn't be so mushy about it but it's nice to know I'm not alone in my attachment to pets. Moose and Sammie must have been very special.
@sjpurrs they were.
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
@sjpurrs Twenty-five years ago this week I attended the memorial service for a member of the NYC Fire Department who died on September 11. It wasn't a true funeral because there wasn't a full, intact body.
I didn't know the man, but the FDNY Commissioner had asked "civilians" to attend a funeral or memorial if they could. FDNY has always prided themselves on large turnouts for members who die in the line of duty. On the train I noticed uniformed members of the Baltimore Fire Department.
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@sjpurrs Twenty-five years ago this week I attended the memorial service for a member of the NYC Fire Department who died on September 11. It wasn't a true funeral because there wasn't a full, intact body.
I didn't know the man, but the FDNY Commissioner had asked "civilians" to attend a funeral or memorial if they could. FDNY has always prided themselves on large turnouts for members who die in the line of duty. On the train I noticed uniformed members of the Baltimore Fire Department.
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@sjpurrs The church was packed. I stood in a corner.
The pews filled with firefighters in dress uniforms. Most were crying openly, not trying to hide it. The youngest member of the unit, a "probie," gave a eulogy and broke down crying twice. We waited patiently for him to pull himself together and continue.
These were our heroes. After September 11 the FDNY were the heroes of New York. They cried.
I never really bought that "men don't cry" thing, but since that day, NO!
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
@sjpurrs When I was a little autistic "boy" I was always shamed for crying and compared to a baby by the staff at school and the "care" facilities. Weirdly enough they didn't explicitly make it about gender, only age, but I'm 99% sure they wouldn't have made nearly as big of a deal about my crying if I had been a cis girl.
They never bothered to actually teach me how "big boys" handle negative emotions outside of punishing me when I did it wrong, so I copied the behavior from some other autistic kids in the facility (which is also inherently biased towards the kinds of behaviors that are obvious from the outside…) and became aggressive and angry during meltdowns instead of crying, which only made everything worse for me and got me sent away to multiple boarding schools where I was abused to the point of still getting nightmares more than a decade later. -
Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
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@ObsceneAnthroposene I agree wholeheartedly
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
@sjpurrs my father was a US Army veteran and he cried when he felt sad. It didn't embarrass him. Why would it?
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
@sjpurrs I cried watching ET. And Steel Magnolias (1989). I cried when my father died. I got all choked up accepting an award. I cry watching touching reunion videos.
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
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@sjpurrs When I was a little autistic "boy" I was always shamed for crying and compared to a baby by the staff at school and the "care" facilities. Weirdly enough they didn't explicitly make it about gender, only age, but I'm 99% sure they wouldn't have made nearly as big of a deal about my crying if I had been a cis girl.
They never bothered to actually teach me how "big boys" handle negative emotions outside of punishing me when I did it wrong, so I copied the behavior from some other autistic kids in the facility (which is also inherently biased towards the kinds of behaviors that are obvious from the outside…) and became aggressive and angry during meltdowns instead of crying, which only made everything worse for me and got me sent away to multiple boarding schools where I was abused to the point of still getting nightmares more than a decade later.@LunaDragofelis I'm so sorry to hear about your story. Boys are often just left with anger as the only negative emotion they can use when a good cry would do a much better job of releasing all the stress and frustration.
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