Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

[mxverda@lgbtqia.space]

@eq @vkc idk how much it helps (if at all), but it might help to focus on the problem (excluding behaviours) rather than groups (humans are a let down).
Like... less "the situation will always be shit" ("we can't have nice things") and more "That sounds very frustrating; I don't wish that for you or anyone else".
Maybe with a dash of "I try to fight it where I can, but XYZ tends to happen. Anyone got any advice while we're on the topic?"
Or "I might try [whatever other suggestions]."

Idk. I'm not an expert

[lucydev@wetdry.world]

@vkc the internet is quite the cesspool sometimes. I'm sorry you had to go through that

[alex02@elonsucks.org]

@vkc starting to feel like majority also don't want gen z on here either.

[cyberwitch@goingdark.social]

@vkc with all the bragging about how fedi is built so it can defederate and cut out unmoderated instances, maybe they should try it sometime.

[alex02@elonsucks.org]

@vkc the hostility toward gen z in general has ramped up, but yet these whiney bitches want gen z to clean up their mess while straight up abusing gen z claiming this is what all generations do which is just manipulation.

[vkc@linuxmom.net]

@alex02 you're threadjacking, feel free to post your critique on your own post. I'm out here talking about sexism, that's a whole different problem.

[cataclock@wetdry.world]

@vkc ah jesus... I'm sorry you had to go through that. Some people should go outside.

[kernelkebap@mastodon.social]

@vkc I didn’t see that. What was said?
Edit: how did the sexual harassment look like?

[alex02@elonsucks.org]

@vkc no it is not and quite frankly your response is quite obnoxious. If we can't talk about problems collectively on this shithole platform and only talk about one thing at a time than it becomes loose islands among the rest of the sewage, but fine whatever. Thank you for proving my point about how hostile this place is becoming with all you morons whining, but yet do this type of shit. Anyways, enjoy the block. I generally don't care.

[em0nm4stodon@infosec.exchange]

@vkc @neil

[marud@social.marud.fr]

@vkc what the actual f is wrong with humanity

[cyberwitch@goingdark.social]

and also, I've noticed POC on Mastodon with similar complaints that are, similarly, minimized or ignored. The Fediverse culture is showing some large-scale bad patterns here. "Progressive" communities and platforms need to quit ignoring and tone-policing people when issues arise.

[haltroy@mastodon.social]

@vkc I hope you are doing OK, I had no idea that other people on Fedi to be this bad. I thought since it's userbase is more smarter I wouldn't guessed this would happen.

I'd be cool if Mastodon had a "list" feature like bsky does, where you can add people to there and auto-block/mute them. Kinda useful thing, especially on these.

[jirikiha@raphus.social]

@vkc men, do better.

Be a man in the internet. Talk about what you like. Cars, weather, trains, sports. See how the replies are on topic.

Be a woman on the internet. Talk about what you like.
Cars, weather, trains, sports. See the replies talking about your boobs. See the DMs filled with, "hey baby", and unsolicited dick pics.

If you are a man, you won't see most - or any! - of what women experience daily online. That doesn't mean it doesn't happen. Your just in a safe little bubble of privilege. Own it, and do better.

[midtsveen@social.linux.pizza]

@vkc Apparently women are “too woke.” Well, I love women, so I guess that makes me woke too. Extra woke, even. Maximum wokeness, omg. ️ ️‍ Haters gonna hate regardless, be you! ️

[janhelms@rheinneckar.social]

@alex02 @vkc Hey Alex, want to block me, too? Because I totally disagree with you, and blockings seems your way to cope with other opinions.

[disorderlyf@todon.eu]

@vkc I wonder if it's a good sign for my instance that I'm seeing a lot of replies to what I presume is people being sexist pricks but not their actual posts.

[randyhughesking@mastodon.social]

@vkc My crew is working on it. Culturally, we are training to call out and effectively moderate (banning, blocking, defederating) and figuring out 'financing' of who does it and hours required of manual moderation w/volunteers.

Structurally, there's common sexism/problem phrases that are just stupidly common, a pre-filter for all posts containing known BS, expanding on any emergent phrasing case-by-case

PSA channels with zero commenting for local civics also on the drawing board.

Thoughts?

[vkc@linuxmom.net]

@disorderlyf probably. I know folks are reporting posts and that's almost certainly creating some blocks right now.

[legit_spaghetti@mastodo.neoliber.al]

@vkc Moderation is a difficult problem to solve. Whenever I see content that is unwelcome (sexual harassment is at the top of that list), I report it, but not once have I received notice that anything has been done based on those reports.

On top of that, reporting bad actors is reactive and does nothing to undo the harassment that occurred.

Seems like the only approach that works is to loudly and publicly name & shame harassers. But that opens up another can of worms.

Ugh.