Deleted my post about the sexual harassment I'd received on Fedi, because it was driving more sexual harassment toward me.

[aprazeth@mstdn.social]

@moondog548 @alice @vkc

There are differing styles of communication and personalities to take into account, so don't necessarily use these as-is. Adapt to your situation/style/personality

Some examples to get started (for the edgy remark retorts)

- Not cool dude
- that's fucked up
- ask them to explain what they meant, make them explain their "edgy" stuff

But above all, be the better example. Support women, POC, LGBTQ, and *believe them* when they call out stuff

[pacavegano@friendica.odonian.org]

@vkc I’m very sorry to hear this. Just this morning I watched your videos on installing Linux on Chromebooks and comparing standard Mint to Debian Mint (loved the visual REM reference, btw). And a few days ago your video about installing Linux on M1 Macs inspired me to do just that.

You’re doing great work, and I really appreciate you being on PeerTube. Thanks much!

[lexinova@cyberplace.social]

@vkc had some best way not engage ignore block report.

if you engage, you already lost.

[bob@beamship.mpaq.org]

@mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

I do a lot of coding for the MPAQ network. Sitting here working on other things and wondering if i could build a database/site to collect names@instances that someone sends...

[mloxton@med-mastodon.com]

@bob
There is something like that afaik
Not sure if it wound up as an app, but women were circulating a blocklist of known gremlins

@RegGuy @vkc

[coriopsicologia@mastodon.social]

@vkc

I just can send you hugs, and apple pies.

[valen1@mstdn.social]

@vkc Real men understand what consent means. Real men don't treat women like garbage. Real men fight that shit.

Be a real man, not garbage who make women uncomfortable to be who they are.

#FightThatShit

[64bithero@mstdn.games]

@vkc for anyone openly harassing someone on the Fediverse please leave and never come back.

Sorry to hear what you are dealing with

[europlus@social.europlus.zone]

@vkc I’m sorry the grubs are still around

[64bithero@mstdn.games]

@alex02 @vkc go to Twitter go to Bluesky. She’s not asking for argument.

[claudiaxm@mstdn.ca]

@vkc I’m sorry for what you went through. Hope you’re doing ok.

[bob@beamship.mpaq.org]

@mloxton @RegGuy @vkc

Been searching but no luck finding a site that would let someone "report a bad user"...

[jaykass@mastodon.online]

@vkc
Gods dang it, fedi. Be better.

[travisfw@fosstodon.org]

@vkc okay, how to take responsibility for fedi culture. Hmm. Sure can look for it and push back, if I happen to see it at the right time, but that seems minimal.
I wonder if anyone has tried setting up a honeypot for sexual harassment?

[njwookie@mindly.social]

@vkc

Sorry this happen to you. There are fighters out there but it's a tough fight and big Fediverse.

Fedi needs a hashtag that is a call to action to fight harassment and bigotry. Blocking or muting isn't enough. There should be a way to call in the Calvary to defend those being attacked.

Simply reply with #StompTheBully (or something) and the good guys show up to shut things down. Summon the guard dogs and we'll show up. As 6'5" father of a mess of daughters nothing makes me happier when my crew needs me for some "Big Dog Energy".

[orb2069@mastodon.online]

@moondog548
This is the way.

@haltroy @vkc

[dcgirl@boop.city]

@vkc people want women on the fediverse? That’s news to me.

[anne_twain@theblower.au]

@vkc Yeah it's amazing how, when you talk about arsehole behaviour on social media, arseholes arrive to demonstrate exactly what you were talking about.

[bredroll@mas.to]

@vkc holy shit, why do assholes feel the need to come out of the swamp! so sorry you (and everyone else) have had to undure that kind of crap

[david@tech.lgbt]

@vkc using the negative comments that you have gotten to add some suspends on our instance. You are better to have here than all of them combined, easily.