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  • mehdi_benadel@mastodon.balamb.frM mehdi_benadel@mastodon.balamb.fr

    @benroyce I lived in a muslim community. Women in this community don't like men to be looking at them, which made me hesitant to maintain eye contact with women in general. I'm also bad with eye contact, which happens with people with ASD.

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    #17

    @mehdi_benadel

    I think there's a difference between unwanted eye contact in purely social situations and eye contact in an employment scenario. I understand the cultural differences but I don't think they overrule the stricter hierarchy of a work environment. Someone should look at a boss, or interviewer, a certain way that has nothing to do with their gender or their culture. They should just see "boss" or "interviewer", woman or man doesn't matter

    This is strictly in the employment context

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    • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

      @Ludo oof

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      #18

      @benroyce yeah, totally unconscious 🫣 sweet lad, too. He never asked for feedback, which is a pity because he can't address it if no one gets to tell him about it. Thing is many women don't even notice, it happens so frequently. Our lovely male colleague on the panel hadn't noticed...and he was off to the side so it was painfully obvious 😆

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      • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

        Nice method

        #techbros #techbro #misogyny

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        @benroyce harder to do remote, but I have failed quite a few people for this.

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        • T tracy_murray2000@mastodon.social

          @benroyce I just had to follow you because of your post, I never worked in tech, but this is awesome!

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          @Tracy_Murray2000 followed back 😁

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          • richih@chaos.socialR richih@chaos.social

            @benroyce harder to do remote, but I have failed quite a few people for this.

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            #21

            @RichiH that is harder because they're just looking in the camera. But other cues like whose questions they engage with and how long and the overall differential in their emotional tenor can still be gauged

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            • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

              @Jamoteusz

              What i dislike about that is that it shifts responsibility. We can't be responsible for educating bigots. Rising or falling depending upon how bigoted someone is should be enough lesson and personal motivation. It's not hard. It's not like culture and society isn't screaming the lesson constantly. So some will learn, some won't. If some won't: oh well

              Again, why do we have the job of doing someone else's fundamental social responsibility for them. It's a fool's errand.

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              @benroyce @Jamoteusz

              because it might not be bigotry, but simply a culture clash. if you are just ambushing the candidate with that kind of setup, you could just as easily say you are ruling out people raised in a strong patriarchic culture too. you _might_ be inclined to just say "good to rule that out" but that's its own discrimination against origin.

              ...now, if the interview guidance given to the candidate in advance says something like "we conduct interviews in panels and the candidate is expected to address their answer to the person posing the question" then what I said above doesn't apply.

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              • drangnon@hachyderm.ioD drangnon@hachyderm.io

                @benroyce @Jamoteusz

                because it might not be bigotry, but simply a culture clash. if you are just ambushing the candidate with that kind of setup, you could just as easily say you are ruling out people raised in a strong patriarchic culture too. you _might_ be inclined to just say "good to rule that out" but that's its own discrimination against origin.

                ...now, if the interview guidance given to the candidate in advance says something like "we conduct interviews in panels and the candidate is expected to address their answer to the person posing the question" then what I said above doesn't apply.

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                #23

                @draNgNon @Jamoteusz

                "you could just as easily say you are ruling out people raised in a strong patriarchic culture too"

                that's reframing the essential problem as if what you just described is something totally different

                misogyny is misogyny

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                • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

                  Nice method

                  #techbros #techbro #misogyny

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                  #24

                  @benroyce oh dear. I had cringe flashbacks from when my landlord would only talk handywork stuff to me (a Smol Twink™) when my flatmate (Slightly taller woman) was very adamantly bearing said handywork tools in her hands and talking to him.

                  It was. So very weird until we understood exactly what was going on.

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                  • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

                    @draNgNon @Jamoteusz

                    "you could just as easily say you are ruling out people raised in a strong patriarchic culture too"

                    that's reframing the essential problem as if what you just described is something totally different

                    misogyny is misogyny

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                    #25

                    @benroyce @Jamoteusz

                    there really is a difference between an asshole American techbro who was gung-ho about gamergate, and some guy from an ME or African or SE Asian country who managed to get the education necessary to work in a tech job in the US or EU and who has real problems addressing women directly. that difference is actually codified legally; you can decline to hire someone who's rude but not discriminate on the basis of national origin.

                    it's late so that's all I will say in response, other than cute as the OP was, it's not always as cut-and-dried as you make it out to be. if only that were so

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                    • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

                      Nice method

                      #techbros #techbro #misogyny

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                      #26

                      @benroyce

                      It totally works for weeding out the bigots, too.

                      (If the office festooned with pride flags wasn't going to be enough of a clue...)

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                      • dwlt@mastodon.me.ukD dwlt@mastodon.me.uk

                        @benroyce not just techbros, works across job functions in my experience

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                        #27

                        @dwlt @benroyce yeah this is kinda a standard technique? 🤷 -we used to have this as a criterion (in Finance) 15 years ago, if we had enough interviewers to do 2:1 (any gender mix)

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                        • drangnon@hachyderm.ioD drangnon@hachyderm.io

                          @benroyce @Jamoteusz

                          there really is a difference between an asshole American techbro who was gung-ho about gamergate, and some guy from an ME or African or SE Asian country who managed to get the education necessary to work in a tech job in the US or EU and who has real problems addressing women directly. that difference is actually codified legally; you can decline to hire someone who's rude but not discriminate on the basis of national origin.

                          it's late so that's all I will say in response, other than cute as the OP was, it's not always as cut-and-dried as you make it out to be. if only that were so

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                          @draNgNon @Jamoteusz

                          i think anyone from any culture can understand hierarchy in employment situations, and what you're saying seems rather patronizing to people from other cultures. you're saying they are unable to understand the power dynamic of an interview scenario

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                            @draNgNon @Jamoteusz

                            i think anyone from any culture can understand hierarchy in employment situations, and what you're saying seems rather patronizing to people from other cultures. you're saying they are unable to understand the power dynamic of an interview scenario

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                            @benroyce @draNgNon

                            we have to teach them before examination.

                            But you are right.

                            Thanx a lot for expirience exchange.

                            Cheers, mate!

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                            • jamoteusz@mastodon.com.plJ jamoteusz@mastodon.com.pl

                              @benroyce @draNgNon

                              we have to teach them before examination.

                              But you are right.

                              Thanx a lot for expirience exchange.

                              Cheers, mate!

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                              @Jamoteusz @draNgNon

                              your average person of average intelligence can understand social context and code switch easily

                              how we act around each other, gender related or not, is very different in church/mosque/temple, vs the home, vs the street, vs the coffee shop, vs employment scenario, etc

                              how a person acts in their home country vs adopted country is all code switching too

                              anyone can grasp context and expectations instantly

                              "we have to teach them" seems condescending to me

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                              • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

                                @RichiH that is harder because they're just looking in the camera. But other cues like whose questions they engage with and how long and the overall differential in their emotional tenor can still be gauged

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                                @benroyce yeah, it's doable. But needs more finesse.

                                The fun part is , #Grafana has something we call Wayfinders. If I say no on an interview, it's a hard no and the hiring manager can't override

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                                • drangnon@hachyderm.ioD drangnon@hachyderm.io

                                  @benroyce @Jamoteusz

                                  there really is a difference between an asshole American techbro who was gung-ho about gamergate, and some guy from an ME or African or SE Asian country who managed to get the education necessary to work in a tech job in the US or EU and who has real problems addressing women directly. that difference is actually codified legally; you can decline to hire someone who's rude but not discriminate on the basis of national origin.

                                  it's late so that's all I will say in response, other than cute as the OP was, it's not always as cut-and-dried as you make it out to be. if only that were so

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                                  @draNgNon

                                  @benroyce @Jamoteusz

                                  This is about 'culture fit' isn't it.

                                  Like, if that culture is yt cis dude sports huel bro-down last in the office wins, then that's the way it is and you have to fit in.

                                  But if the culture is queer/trans positive syndicalist caring-responsibility and MH aware diversity forward then that's dangerous and discriminatory?

                                  No. Tech interviews are nice, but what you really want to do is avoid dickheads who'll break a working team.

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                                  • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

                                    @Jamoteusz @draNgNon

                                    your average person of average intelligence can understand social context and code switch easily

                                    how we act around each other, gender related or not, is very different in church/mosque/temple, vs the home, vs the street, vs the coffee shop, vs employment scenario, etc

                                    how a person acts in their home country vs adopted country is all code switching too

                                    anyone can grasp context and expectations instantly

                                    "we have to teach them" seems condescending to me

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                                    @benroyce @Jamoteusz @draNgNon can you explain why is that bigotry and misogyny?

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                                      @benroyce @Jamoteusz @draNgNon can you explain why is that bigotry and misogyny?

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                                      @redeleted @Jamoteusz @draNgNon

                                      what is

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                                        @draNgNon

                                        @benroyce @Jamoteusz

                                        This is about 'culture fit' isn't it.

                                        Like, if that culture is yt cis dude sports huel bro-down last in the office wins, then that's the way it is and you have to fit in.

                                        But if the culture is queer/trans positive syndicalist caring-responsibility and MH aware diversity forward then that's dangerous and discriminatory?

                                        No. Tech interviews are nice, but what you really want to do is avoid dickheads who'll break a working team.

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                                        @JuliaRez @draNgNon @benroyce

                                        thank you.
                                        may be I start to understand something.

                                        I'm small-biz - one man person band. Not much experience with BigFishes. [only some, rather bad]

                                        So - i need to understand something.

                                        [you use to much modern language to me - i'm not so up to date with it]

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                                        • benroyce@mastodon.socialB benroyce@mastodon.social

                                          @redeleted @Jamoteusz @draNgNon

                                          what is

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                                          @benroyce @Jamoteusz @draNgNon that you calim to be in this thread

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