As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth.
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe?- “you do not get a cookie for not being a rapist“
- in real life this single response would get you kicked out of all friend groups I know, and explicitly labelled as a dangerous toxic dick.
Oh, and blocked right here right now, of course.
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@YKantRachelRead This response is
Thanks!!!
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@johan_andersson @QasimRashid oh no, whatever shall we do without men like you around, surely women everywhere shall mourn the loss of someone who sees the literal epidemic of unreported sexual assaults among women and goes "oh but maybe it's us who shouldn't feel safe around you"
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@johan_andersson @QasimRashid oh no, whatever shall we do without men like you around, surely women everywhere shall mourn the loss of someone who sees the literal epidemic of unreported sexual assaults among women and goes "oh but maybe it's us who shouldn't feel safe around you"
These dudes are literally crawling out from everywhere to make damn sure we all know they are the problem.
I’m thankful for small blessings, I guess.
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe?@johnrohde @QasimRashid there are multiple calls to action in the article. Step one get your head out of your ass and stop weighing in on the side of, "but I'm one of the good ones". Step two actually engage with the information you are presented with instead of making excuses.
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe?@johnrohde @QasimRashid "The men who rush to announce their personal non-violence the moment this conversation begins are doing exactly what this culture trained them to do—center themselves rather than confront the problem."
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe? -
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@johnrohde @QasimRashid "The men who rush to announce their personal non-violence the moment this conversation begins are doing exactly what this culture trained them to do—center themselves rather than confront the problem."
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@QasimRashid Men aren't safe around men either. You know that, right?
Also, men are more likely to die preventable violent deaths, be seriously injured by random violence, and die from preventable diseases.
Statistically men are in more danger than women, every day, all the time, from everything and you only need to look into an OAP home to see who is outliving whom.
In summary, feeling safe and being safe are not the same thing. Safety is not and can not be guaranteed for anyone, ever.
Diverting the topic from women, from the article. Nope . Not cool. @QasimRashid
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@QasimRashid Men aren't safe around men either. You know that, right?
Also, men are more likely to die preventable violent deaths, be seriously injured by random violence, and die from preventable diseases.
Statistically men are in more danger than women, every day, all the time, from everything and you only need to look into an OAP home to see who is outliving whom.
In summary, feeling safe and being safe are not the same thing. Safety is not and can not be guaranteed for anyone, ever.
>>Men aren't safe around men either. You know that, right?<<
So...you agree that men are the dangerous ones to be around?
>>Also, men are more likely to die preventable violent deaths, be seriously injured by random violence, and die from preventable diseases.<<
And why is that? Why are men the ones most likely to be in preventble violent situations? Why are men more likely to die by random violence? Why are men more likely to die from preventable diseases?
(These are also rhetorical questions, becaude the answer is Male Supremacy/Toxic Masculinity)
Anyways, maybe let women talk about the violence we experience at the hands of men (who, remember, you actively stated are dangerous to be around) without feeling the need to refocus the conversation on men being victims.
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@Oafsalot @QasimRashid lol @ doing "I don't see color" for misogyny
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@YKantRachelRead @QasimRashid Sorry What you Suffered, But You Only Met The Wrong Men
Every man saying "you only met the wrong man'" is really saying, "It's your fault your relationship was bad. I am alpha and the best thing to happen to women" Very toxic .
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@QasimRashid
Another example of Qasim's pathetic engagement farming. The capitalist system, which he will never address, is inherently sexist and the hierarchy requires someone to be picked on who's considered lower on the pecking order. Women and minorities have conveniently always been in this catagory.
The USSR-Communist Russia-which everyone on mastodon vilifies with ignorant Russophobia, always considered women as equals and important. That's why the US goal has been to destroy Russia.@Timeless
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@QasimRashid I'm with you. What do we need to do?
@hoare_spitall @QasimRashid confront men when they do wrong!
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@QasimRashid Ok, I need to know what to with this information.
I am a male and have never hurt a woman.
Do you want me to self quarantine for the rest of my life in order to make women feel safe?@johnrohde @QasimRashid maybe you could help in the male community instead. Speak out? Ask women what would help?
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@YKantRachelRead @johnrohde@helvede.net @QasimRashid Well John just got blocked!
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@HappyCrow13 @QasimRashid a lot of people don’t care until it happens to them.
When a man in my friend group climbed into my bed and tried something while I was sleeping after I let him crash on my couch so he didn’t get a DUI trying to get home, a whole bunch of people in my friend group were like “well he didn’t do anything to ME” to justify continuing to be friends with that man without calling me a liar.
Needless to say I stopped being friends with those people.
Men need to hold their friends to better standards if they don’t want to get grouped in with their bad behavior. “He hasn’t done anything to me so he’s cool” is enabling behavior.
@maggiejk @QasimRashid Yeah I know too many men like that. I no longer stay quiet about it and have broken many friendships because they didn't like the truth.
I was blamed for my abusive marriage. The men tended to side with my ex cuz I'm a 'hard woman to get along with' and 'he works hard cut him some slack' The couple of women (my mom included) were also in abusive relationships and didn't want to admit it and get help to end it so they found reasons to fault me -
@maggiejk @QasimRashid Yeah I know too many men like that. I no longer stay quiet about it and have broken many friendships because they didn't like the truth.
I was blamed for my abusive marriage. The men tended to side with my ex cuz I'm a 'hard woman to get along with' and 'he works hard cut him some slack' The couple of women (my mom included) were also in abusive relationships and didn't want to admit it and get help to end it so they found reasons to fault me@maggiejk @QasimRashid I'm more angry at the men because they refuse to accept they're as culpable as my ex. They openly encouraged and engaged in abusive behaviors and deriding women
The women who blamed me were not nearly as eager and wholehearted about it. After a couple of good yelling sessions from me they seemed to accept they were wrong and started helping themselves
The men could only call me a stupid slut that hurts me cuz I'm angry at them
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As a human rights lawyer representing survivors of domestic and sexual violence for 15+ years, I've learned a hard truth. One that will make some men uncomfortable. This is good. Discomfort is the beginning of accountability.
Women are not safe around men. This is a documented, data-driven, empirically supported fact our society has spent generations refusing to confront. Let's Address This.
@QasimRashid Another reply cuz I want to remind men\male leaning folks that if you do not discourage and pushback against what your friends and brothers do, you're just as bad as them.
Doing nothing is also a choice. You choosing to do nothing to stop the violence is the very thing that makes it worse
Until every man does something about this, it's yes all men and always will be all men.
A bear in the woods is nothing compared to a man on the street, in your store or in your life
