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@Natasha_Jay And the manosphere is so upset about the idea of trans women, because they know we have the receipts. We have been around men when they thought there were only other men around. We know how much worse they are when they think there are no women in the room.
Some of us tried to push back on misogyny, and were told, “it’s a joke,” “don’t get your panties in a twist,” or were “playfully” threatened and insulted. Treated the way they treat women. And while the predators were doing this, a few of the others either chuckled along or were silent. Very occasionally, there would be one man who would agree that misogyny was unacceptable. Once a second had spoken up against the predator, the tide quickly turned. This was unfortunately not a frequency occurrence.
Men, if you aren’t actively tryjng to shut down misogyny every time you hear it, no matter the impact that pushback might have on you, then your silence will be seen as tacit acceptance by the other men. And however much you might think you are one of the “good guys,” you will be furthering misogyny.
Good men speak up. Good men know it is not “just a joke.” Good men don’t let other men demean women, whether or not they think there are women present.
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I've been a woman in the room with two men, when one has referred to the other's pregnant wife so offensively that I would have thought it would have caused a major breach, and I was silent.It's hard to know what to say in the moment, when you're reeling from shock that someone thought that was an okay thing to say to anyone, much less a colleague or friend.
I don't believe any of the three of us in that conversation were "good guys". I do think the insulting guy thought he was being funny, and the other guy was his friend and took it in that spirit. And I felt like it was his role to speak out, since it was his wife and he would know better than I just how upset (or not) she'd be about it.
But since then, I've tried to be more prepared to speak out.
And speaking out has been a tremendous relief, even as it has lost me opportunities. It feels like putting the emotional work of coping with their words back on their shoulders, where it belongs.
@Natasha_Jay @Robotistry the ‘act’ of silence is not a strong enough objection for the offensive individual to change their behavior. Even if there’s no one supporting them in that situation they will just voice it again later hopeful of finding a receptive audience.
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@Natasha_Jay And the manosphere is so upset about the idea of trans women, because they know we have the receipts. We have been around men when they thought there were only other men around. We know how much worse they are when they think there are no women in the room.
Some of us tried to push back on misogyny, and were told, “it’s a joke,” “don’t get your panties in a twist,” or were “playfully” threatened and insulted. Treated the way they treat women. And while the predators were doing this, a few of the others either chuckled along or were silent. Very occasionally, there would be one man who would agree that misogyny was unacceptable. Once a second had spoken up against the predator, the tide quickly turned. This was unfortunately not a frequency occurrence.
Men, if you aren’t actively tryjng to shut down misogyny every time you hear it, no matter the impact that pushback might have on you, then your silence will be seen as tacit acceptance by the other men. And however much you might think you are one of the “good guys,” you will be furthering misogyny.
Good men speak up. Good men know it is not “just a joke.” Good men don’t let other men demean women, whether or not they think there are women present.
@Natasha_Jay @Serena a quick question such as - would you be willing to say this if the woman (and her husband?) was standing here? May help lower the willingness to insult and helps show the cowardice of the comment to the others in the room.
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@Natasha_Jay What practical things can we do to be better? I'm after specifics.
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@Natasha_Jay the woman concludes all men are rapists and posts it on social media. A story as old as time .
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@Natasha_Jay waiting for the "but not all men are like that" comment
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@Natasha_Jay and everyone who speaks up is branded as white knighting by both men and women
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@Natasha_Jay how could one differentiate a group of 10 men that had a conflict about this sexual joke, from one that hasn't? "Most men are the same" seems like a vibes-based conclusion.
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@Natasha_Jay you shouldnt wonder! It's woman who are attempting to hype feminism that only exists cause of the digital thievery on other people! Its woman, every day mentally using the genitals of others to be able to think when using dicks muscles mentally as brain making impotent the men globall step by step. It's woman, every day trying to control mind and movement of men globally while mentally being with hackers who steal and manipulate whole world.
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@Natasha_Jay Be happy to not be one of those woman and take what men do
If you would be one of those manipulative woman, they wouldnt even be sexual to you! For woman it looks like those manipulative woman who even want to call their terrorism a carreer are normal!understandable in things of the wide amount of people who got no idea bout the system!
but, if you maybe remember the stories saying that you shall recycle all your old things and buy new ones for th world not dies?! It was woman! -
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@Natasha_Jay you shouldnt wonder! It's woman who are attempting to hype feminism that only exists cause of the digital thievery on other people! Its woman, every day mentally using the genitals of others to be able to think when using dicks muscles mentally as brain making impotent the men globall step by step. It's woman, every day trying to control mind and movement of men globally while mentally being with hackers who steal and manipulate whole world.
@wishchain @Natasha_Jay I am sorry to ask, but what language is this? I pasted your text in my translator and it returned unintelligible.
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I think you need to mansplain that to me.
Without the insult would be good.
@ForgottenHero I'm sorry you had to read that aggressiveness. I'm just trying not to be one of the silent ones.
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