Normalize discussing mistakes in a way that doesn’t sound like moral judgement.

[adhdeanasl@beige.party]

@roknrol *extreme Pee Wee Herman voice* YES YOU DO, INFINITY

[the_turtle@polyglot.city]

@adhdeanasl my motto was, "look for the solution."

I used to be in private contracting. My counterpart on the federal side was a peevish career fed who always seemed to want to find scapegoats to blame. She said this overtly one time when we had some sort of slip-up on a contract task and I said, "I'd like to focus on finding solutions here," and she actually said with her mouth-hole, "no, I want to find out who's to blame!"

I later ended up working with her as a fed when I joined government.

[perrin42@mastodon.social]

@adhdeanasl

I can't believe you'd say that publicly!

[silasmariner@hostux.social]

@adhdeanasl not your mistakes though m8 we all know they were _awful_

[silasmariner@hostux.social]

@adhdeanasl sorry that was shit I meant: obviously. Fucking *obviously*. You're so obviously correct that a joke is the most sensible response. Mistakes are how we learn, not just how we fuck things up. But it's important to discuss mistakes to avoid the latter just as much as to achieve the former. But that's not as funny as calling you a tit.

[ciela@mastodon.ie]

@adhdeanasl finally someone said this thank you.

[steeph@queerchen.de]

@adhdeanasl I can't. I need to sleep now.

[adhdeanasl@beige.party]

@Ciela Best kept secrets of therapists everywhere, and I’ve just spilled the beans.

[csolisr@hub.azkware.net]

But my family has long taught that there are no mistakes, only lack of willpower to always do the right thing, so who's right? </sarcasm>

[bellegraylane@universeodon.com]

@adhdeanasl I’m sorry. I can’t do that dean.