Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do".
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@TrueNorthSpice @sjpurrs the field I worked in was (and still is) highly male-dominated, hence why it was once considered unusual for those working in it to cry or show any emotion at all (in comparison to those working in the production side of radio/TV, where it was more accepted)
@vfrmedia @sjpurrs
Oddly so was mine and still is...it's difficult to find a profession that is exposed to more red neck uptight men than the one I was in.IMO, experience says, and from what I've read and heard from males, is men are afraid to show emotion when alpha type aggressive ones are nearby.
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@vfrmedia @sjpurrs
Oddly so was mine and still is...it's difficult to find a profession that is exposed to more red neck uptight men than the one I was in.IMO, experience says, and from what I've read and heard from males, is men are afraid to show emotion when alpha type aggressive ones are nearby.
@TrueNorthSpice @vfrmedia Yep, that was certainly true of me when I was young but as an adult, I've distanced myself from those type of men, so I feel much freer about expressing myself.
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@Hyperlynx Yeah, it still seems to be a thing, unfortunately.
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@Hyperlynx Exactly! Great share! "It's okay for macho men to show every emotion available". Macho Man was spot on!
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@TrueNorthSpice @vfrmedia Yep, that was certainly true of me when I was young but as an adult, I've distanced myself from those type of men, so I feel much freer about expressing myself.
I heard this quite often, including from my husband.
I'm glad you distanced yourself and feel free to be yourself.I was taught crying was shameful and only for the weak , it took years to overcome that training. It's a release, a cleansing, and a natural process no one should feel they need to hide
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@HardBeingGreen That's absolutely true! Like if you're the funeral director, you'd have to keep your emotions in check because the event is for everyone else to cry. But we're focussing on public crying here and in class, the focus was on crying in general. I mean, lots of times I choose to keep expression of any emotion to myself, like anger. I don't like to share that one.
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I heard this quite often, including from my husband.
I'm glad you distanced yourself and feel free to be yourself.I was taught crying was shameful and only for the weak , it took years to overcome that training. It's a release, a cleansing, and a natural process no one should feel they need to hide
@TrueNorthSpice @vfrmedia Beautifully said.
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
@sjpurrs If you haven't already, you should check out Keith from the Great Pottery Showdown. He cries when he sees contestants make something particularly beautiful or overcome a challenge. Unfortunately it's on Amazon Prime.
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@sjpurrs If you haven't already, you should check out Keith from the Great Pottery Showdown. He cries when he sees contestants make something particularly beautiful or overcome a challenge. Unfortunately it's on Amazon Prime.
@bamfingle I will! Sounds like a great show.
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@HardBeingGreen I like that phrase, 'Happy tears'. Also, I think weddings are all choreographed with the intention of eliciting as much emotion as possible. How can you not cry at such an event?
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
Fist bump. I cry too.
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Ues, I agree that's true up to a point, but sometimes a shared sadness is appreciated .
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Fist bump. I cry too.
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
@sjpurrs Real strength isn’t hiding your emotions; it’s having the courage to own them.
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Someone announced in our class last week that men don't cry and for the first time in my life, I publicly hit back and said, "I do". Many in the class were shocked and didn't believe me, so I explained how I've always cried. When I was young, it was secretly but as an adult, I cry when emotion overwhelms me. I don't see it as a sign of weakness anymore. I think it's a sign of strength to accept what your body needs to do and I feel much better afterwards.
@sjpurrs YOU CAN'T BE YOUR TRUE EVIL SELF WHILE CARRYING AROUND HEAVY EMOTIONS! FREE THOSE EMOTIONS! CRY! LET IT OUT! THEN RAGE AGAINST THE SYSTEM! ALL MY MINIONS MUST HAVE MENTAL HEALTH FIRST AND FOREMOST! TEARS ARE A WARRIORS WEAPON FOR CLEANSING YOUR EMOTIONS!
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@TrueNorthSpice @vfrmedia Beautifully said.
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@TrueNorthSpice @TheZorse I know. I'm a bit overwhelmed by it. You have done as much as I have to keep it going though. Thank you! It seems to have hit a chord. I have to go offline in half an hour because I have a 3hr testing block. Will be interesting to catch up with the discussion then.
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@TrueNorthSpice @TheZorse I know. I'm a bit overwhelmed by it. You have done as much as I have to keep it going though. Thank you! It seems to have hit a chord. I have to go offline in half an hour because I have a 3hr testing block. Will be interesting to catch up with the discussion then.
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@sjpurrs depends a lot on culture / nationality - even in 1990s (when I was working as a broadcast engineer for an electronics company which provided equipment to a lot of public service broadcasters worldwide) I learned it was normal for French men to cry during stressful times (due to defective equipment, and errors from France Télécom, and TBH I couldn't even blame them for crying). It was less common amongst Germans and British (but not entirely absent, I remember sportsball player Paul Gascoigne in 1990 because he got a yellow card at the World Cup and it was viewed as a cultural sign that it was OK for British men to cry if they wanted to..)
